Second baby

The mum guilt is seriously starting to affect me. I keep crying at the thought these are literally the last final weeks of just me and my daughter. Then the baby is going to come and then next year she’s off to school so that’s “just us” basically over. I just can’t handle it. My heart is breaking 😭

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I'm exactly the same. It's killing me 😭

I don't have any advice, but very much feeling the same 😭
A lot of people have said though that we're giving them the best gift we ever could in a sibling so I'm trying to cling onto that
I'm sure once these babies arrive, we'll feel differently 🫶🏻

My daughter is only 18 months will be nearly 21 by the time my son is born but honestly the thought of her growing up and not being just us is such a touchy subject at the moment it makes me so upset. I feel like although shes still little just being a big sister is going to make her seem so much bigger

Exactly the same boat here! Just gone 3yr old, baby due mid September. Little one goes to School next September. I think the mum guilt is completely normal. A part of us is starting to mourn our current life/situation knowing it's going to change. My little girl goes to nursery, and I've decided to send her term time only as of September and then I will have the whole of next years summer holidays with her before she starts school. Baby will then have some settling in days before September next year meaning we will get some Mummy and Daughter days just to ourselves. She is very excited to become a big sister, and I know she will adapt quickly to our new life. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for 💞

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Should I be as concerned as I am?

My daughter has her 1 yr doctor's appointment on the 11th and I wanna ask her pediatrician about it but she's entering the toddler stage so I'm not sure if it's normal. But we've caught her bitting her hands and arms when she's upset. She also pinches others including herself. Is this normal behavior for a toddler? Two of my brothers have autism and this was a huge sign for them as they reached elementary school so I'm not sure if it's the same thing. Eventually I also want to get her tested for ADHD (my brothers also have this and so does her dad - no longer in the picture btw) her father also has schizophrenia which I didn't find out until recently. What is the appropriate age to get her tested? I'm a ftm so idk what to do or think. On top of this I want to get her legs checked out because of the way they are when she's walking. Will they straighten out on their own? Is this normal for babies? Is this something worth asking her pediatrician about? Down below is a video of this so anyone who has a good idea about this or advice would be very helpful!!!

Lopsided!

My LG only feeds from my right boob - I’ve been told by the Breastfeeding Network that this is perfectly normal which is fine. I try to pump from the left occasionally but I don’t always get round to it… now I’ve noticed that my right boob is bigger than my left (which makes sense) but does this mean I’m permanently lopsided?! Will pumping more even then out? Will it be even out when I start weaning?

My son won’t walk with me.

He is 2.5 years and I have to carry him everywhere to get anywhere since he doesn’t listen. If I put him on the ground and hold his hand he will either squirm out of it and run or throw himself on the ground and go limp. He doesn’t come or stay close when I call. He immediately bolts and expects me to follow him. I don’t believe in hitting or yelling. I do stern talk for danger and tried giving him one of two options. None of the other kids his age are this way. They listen to their parents and stay close. What do I do?

Help, Advice, support. Literally anything!

My baby is nearly 5 weeks old. She is cluster feeding around-the-clock. She doesn't sleep unless she is on me as soon as I put her down. She wakes up within 15 minutes. There has been an occasion where she's gone down for a few hours, but it's very, very rare. She's waking up every hour at night. My breast milk doesn't seem to be filling her, so I've outsourced combination feeding, so I'm doing breast and formula to see if I can finally get her to feel full and satisfied, so she'll sleep. 95% of the time when she's awake, she's crying and can't be settled.I'm the first time, mum and I'm struggling. My family don't live anywhere near me. I'm feeling incredibly guilty because I don't know how I'm going to cope with this every day. Don't get me wrong. I wanted her we tried for her and I would never take back having her.I love her so much, but I am really struggling and I can't see it getting any easier.
I genuinely feel like in failing, I don't know what to do.

Crawling?

My 6 month old is having a hard time. He is trying to crawl but he doesn’t push up on his arms. He uses his legs but not his arms. Anyone have any tips on how to help him?

Rookie mistake today, my kids are far more wise than me.

I did my daughters hair this morning, a cute little updo style with multiple little braids conjoining, anyways I used those tiny rubber bands and by the time we were in the school drop off line they had all broken because of the hair products I used I guess have oil that disintegrates rubber🫠 then when I was ranting and throwing a little hissy fit my kid just says “it’s ok nothing lasts forever”