Feeling sad my child is the only one with no supportive grandparents 😔

The mums I met at my local mum groups, my son’s nursery all seem to have at least one grandparent who regular visits and help out. I moved abroad, my parents will visit and stay in the country for 3 weeks so that was the only real break I would get. My in laws used to live 2.5 hours drive away from us but when they visited us they treated our home like a hotel and my son as a toy rather than helping with feeding a bottle or changing a nappy. They didn’t even want to go out for a pram walk. Recently they relocated to another country so they are no longer available. Also they were quite critical about how I looked after my son because of his eczema.

Before I got pregnant they kept saying they wanted a grandson. I went through 3 miscarriages and IVF in secret to finally bring them a grandson. When I walked in the parks I often see grandparents happily played with their grandchildren. What is the point of wanting to be a grandparent if there is no relationship with the grandchild? Not to mention I am stuck being a sahm because I need to apply for jobs but I am doing all the childcare. It makes me angry and sad. 😔

How can I cope not feeling sad? I see them everywhere and sometimes I feel even more lonely after going to baby/toddler sensory plays groups.

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Who is in the wrong?

Car seat has been in my car for the last week. Husband switched it over this morning to take our baby to nursery but didn't tell me. I left the house to pick him up this afternoon and the car seat was obviously missing. Had to hand (upset) baby back to nursery and go back and get it.

We do have another car seat in the house which he could have taken, but he took the one out of my car.

I'm angry but should I be? He says I should have checked the car seat was in the car before I left but I had no reason to think it wouldn't be! Am I expected.to check every single time, when he could have just told me he took it out 🙄

relationship breakdown

ladies, I am so stuck. me and my partner have been close to breaking up a few times due to online infidelity on his part, for the sake of our little one and him saying he didn't wanna lose me we stayed together.. but now I'm just ugh, I'm so scared to leave because there's no way I can afford my home by myself - UC probably won't help with the majority of my rent as I'm in a 3 bed, but because my other son's dad claims the CB he's not recognised as living with me (long story!) my little man is breastfed, and just I don't know what to do. 😭
I'm a bit messy, always have been and I try to do as much tidying as I can but it's never good enough and it seems that he holds no accountability for his actions in this relationship and that it's all me.
any advice? :(

Is the Tonies Box worth it?

Please comment with your experience and include the age of your child 💜 if you could explain how they interact with it that would be great too!

Screen time when they're ill

We have a 4-year-old and a 2-year-old. We try to limit screen time as much as we can and only do TV (no tablets or phone screens). They can watch a Julia Donaldson film or a few episodes of Bluey at the weekends and the odd 30 mins if needed during the week but not every day or anything.

They both have a stomach bug at the moment and feel rubbish with cramps, etc. I'm letting them do what I would want to do, which is curl up on the sofa and watch TV. However, I'm so conscious that when this passes, I'm going to have a nightmare cutting the TV out again. Do other parents do this and throw rules out the window when their kids are ill?!

MIA

So my baby dad went to house sit for a friend when our baby was a couple weeks old, she is now 4 months and he is not back. He visits (8 hrs a week spread across 2 days), but doesn’t do much to help me. He says he’s not moved out, but he’s seeming to be getting pretty comfy there (permanent fixtures etc). The friend is happy him being there as he is abroad and looking at moving there). Very complicated situation. My 3 year old is struggling with the change.

Am I a bad person for feeling annoyed with my husband?

My husband’s mum was diagnosed with breast cancer yesterday, but the doctors think it’s early stage. They said it’s treatable, but to be 100% sure they need to do a few more tests, which they’re doing.

Anyway, my husband is acting like his mum is definitely going to die, and I’m starting to get annoyed. Does that make me a bad person?

We have a 17-month-old little boy, and we have no support at all. I’m already exhausted every single day, and I honestly feel like I can’t handle anything else right now.