Caught my boyfriend out

7 weeks since my second c section and I have just caught my partner out looking at naked girls and talking to them on his phone.

I hate my body as it is and am ashamed of it and now he’s done this..I’m so angry, I’m heart broken. I didn’t feel good enough as it was and now I feel so worthless.

Why am I not good enough, worst thing is if I hadn’t of caught him how much longer would he of lied to me😢

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This has nothing to do with YOU, and YOU not being good enough. You just had a massive abdominal surgery and birthed his child. Your body took 9months to grow said life (or however long you carried, I say as an early birth mom) it’s not going to snap back over night, give yourself grace.

This has everything to do with him choosing to disrespect you and your relationship because his dicks brain matters more than his responsible adult committed partner brain.
What was his reaction when you confronted him?

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Am sorry that happened,know its him not you. He made the choice u didn't put him in that situation. Haveing a baby changes us physically and is natural. U did good and ur enough.

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