How did you make an effort with your first born when you brought your second home?

Hi all, I’m pregnant with my second baby and I’ve been thinking about how to make sure my first born feels loved, cared for and won’t have to fight for my attention. Obviously I’ll be doing my best to make sure they feel special, but if anyone is happy to share any ideas or how/what they did during this time to help thier eldest feel super loved, reduce any competition, embrace the family of four+ and generally make their eldest still feel special, I’d love to hear, thank you 🥰

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Induction date

I’m 38 + 2 and due to family matters I’m so worrying to get past my due date and being alone with no help. I have currently a 2.5 years old and my husband lost his dad a few days ago. His mom, which supposed to look after our daughter, lives 3 hours drive and now she’s going through mental health problems, my family is abroad and they can’t be here unfortunately. Anyone else in my same position? I’m not sure yet when the funeral it’s gonna be etc so I’m just stressing out a lot to be on my own when it happens, I think the best solution would be if they would give me an induction date? I’m so afraid I don’t know what to do 😞😭🥹🙏🏼

3 under 3 pending

Freaking out and so sad. Pls help. We intentionally wanted 2 u 2 but 3rd was unplanned. Conceived whilst on IUD before you judge. I’m so overwhelmed And honestly feel so upset

9DPO is this negative or positive??

Other photo in the comments(My FRER was negative so i'm not sure what's going on)

Need advice

Has anyone had their older kids given more attitude or get in trouble more with a new born?

Generational gap and issues with parents

My mother is here visiting my husband and I. She helps with a few household chores etc. I have problems with low milk supply and excessive formula supplementation. I’m trying to establish breast feeding but I don’t make enough milk. So I pump in addition to triple feed my baby.

My mother washed the pump parts and assembled them incorrectly. I wasted 45 min pumping and getting next to nothing in milk output. I told her that. She said if I don’t like her being here she will go back home. She said I should reschedule her tickets. Oh well..

The more grown I am, now with a 2 month old baby boy, I am starting to realize that my mother actually is of little help towards me. This is a sad realization but I don’t think I intend to visit or see her again once she leaves. She may not come back to visit us again also.

Has anyone else felt distanced from their mothers due to generational age gap, cultural biases, changing expectations and different standards of living? My mother lives in India.

Do I want it more than him?

I have...

Had 2 transvaginal ultrasounds
Attended fertility expos
Used conception cups post-ejaculation
Tracked my BBT
Peed on OPKs
Checked and logged mucus consistency
Quit my job for less stress
Taken the 2 supplements 3 times a day
Conceived and lost my 1 and only baby.

He takes a supplement and goes to the pub. He's older than me. Has 2 grown up kids from a previous marriage. Loves me and says he wants this but his actions make me feel alone in this.

10 years TTC.