I don’t want to do this anymore.

I’ve turned to cutting again. I tried to go to a hospital but my family won’t let me. I’m not on any medication and I’m waiting for part 2 of my psych evaluation to figure out what I have and medication to take but I’m just so over this. I love my kids but it’s just not enough anymore and it breaks me to even believe that. 3 under 5 is really getting to me while having no partner to help. I never imagined living past my 18th birthday and yet here I am. Birth control failed me and my bd threatened to kill me if I got an abortion so I listened but fuck idk what to do anymore. The house is a mess I’ve lost 35lbs in 2 months I just want my babies happy and I don’t think I’m cut out for this

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I am here if you need to talk

Please call someone, please go to a hospital. Your family are clearly not seeing how serious this is sweetie you need support and its not a bad thing.

988 is the national suicide hotline, you and your babies deserve a life with you in it. I’m happy to talk if you need a friend 💕

I bet it’s hard but you can’t do smth that’s gonna harm you or your babies i bet there ur world and this is only a hard patch ur going through im sure being a mother and having to navigate 3 kids under 5 is hard especially bc rn they’re testing limits and being crazy but don’t give up on ur family you’ve already spent so long on try to go out the house like the park or a walk smth small that everyone can handle but if not take some time for you run a bath or hot shower put on a face mask take time for you im always here if you need someone to talk to just take it slow rn ur babies need you

Hey, please reach out to the suicide hotline or the hospital. Being a mom is very difficult and I am sure you are doing an amazing job especially being on your own. Please remember your babies need their mama. Stay strong

Hey call me babe. I got BpD (borderline) and I struggled with cutting for years. I’m in remission rn, and I can help you get there too if you’re really willing. Because it takes work to get here. But again, I’m here if you need anyone to simply talk to. Judgement free cuz I’ve been there. And I still split and get almost there but that’s the work working cuz I’ve been clean for years atp

Send me a chat and I’ll send my number so we can get off this app and chat

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Mastitis?

I’m almost 4 weeks postpartum, I exclusively breastfeed and haven’t had any issues, when my milk first came in I had some engorgement and soreness, lumps just from the fullness but once the milk regulated we’ve been fine feeding and my boobs have been more soft not been getting hard or lumpy. Today they have been lumpy and very sore to touch and I don’t know why

Why do non-mums not understand us ?

So my friend texted me and I was quite busy with my kid and my niece and nephews they were crying, etc. Just a lot was happening, I was overstimulated and hardly on my phone. I called her, she didn’t answer twice. Long story short, I didn’t reply to her messages in time, and then she texted me at around 2am saying “I’m just not gonna contact you anymore atp”.

What I find quite distasteful, really. Like my time isn’t my own anymore? I reply or call as much as I can, but I just feel like she doesn’t get it or see that I’m trying to balance motherhood and being that same girl I was before pregnancy but In actual fact I’m not I don’t have that free time I use to have. And I really don’t like the guilt she’s trying to make me feel. My child will ALWAYS come first, especially when they are distressed.

It feels like most of the friends I have aren’t really my friends anymore, they’ve really distanced themselves. Motherhood can get so lonely at times 😔

Would any other mums like to connect? Just chat about these experiences, vent, or even meet up for a coffee or let’s be honest, something stronger! 😂 I’m from Essex, UK ❤️

Wheelchair user space on public transport. Who has the right? Mum and baby already on board or person using a wheelchair?

I have 3 month old triplets and I am going to have to use public transport next week for a short journey (thankfully it’s only about 10 minutes). I will be taking my double pram and baby wearing one of them. I will not be able to hold all three of them safely and collapse my pram if a wheelchair user comes on board.

Will I have to get off the bus? Will they ask the wheelchair user to wait for the next bus?

For context, am happy to get off the bus if needs be. I just want some knowledge beforehand and any experiences that people have had with this.

Speech

At what age did your sons speech really come on? My 1.5 year old can probably say about 8 words but I’m wondering when he’ll be in full flow talking like is it just going to happen overnight?

Following wake window?

Does anyone not follow wake windows? Just let their baby fall asleep when they do if so how long are they awake for roughly?

Bedtimes with newborn

Hi!
I’m a first time mum and really struggling with bed times with my baby girl. She’s only 17 days old. At nights she doesn’t like being in her next to me crib; I think she feels a bit lost in it and also doesn’t like a blanket. We have been putting her down in her Moses basket which has been working better but when waking up for her early hours feed around 3/4am I can’t seem to get her back down in the Moses basket and having to put her in with me which isn’t ideal. I feel so much mum guilt as she will be used to being warm and toasty in my tummy!
Please can anyone give advice on how they sleep their babies; do you use blankets, sleep bags? I’ve seen people use the sleep pod pillows but these aren’t recommended. Any advice will be very much appreciated as I feel awful thinking she must feel so cold and lost in her crib/moses.