Do you ever get so numb to your narcissistic parents that getting a txt to tell you hey your aunt died, and you just go numb and say “ok”

Like I would love to say this is the first time this has happened but in the last year this is how I have been told about 3 deaths in my family, how I was told about a funeral that was for someone I knew at our church and was only told as by the way if you call tomorrow and we don’t answer we are at this person’s funeral, oh you didn’t know? Ya she died a month ago from brain cancer thought we had told you….like this is the crap I have gone numb to. Is it wrong I’m numb to this kind of txt?

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I have a similar response and feeling. Especially when my parent has intentionally isolated me from the wider family, so being told of someone passing makes me feel nothing. Unfortunately this is then used against me as I am told I’m never there for my parent or care enough about her family or when someone dies. Can never win

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