Alone and disconnected
I moved to an entire new state i March of last year after losing my job. My fiance and I were in different states because of our careers. We took that as a sign it was time for me to move so we could actually be together year round.
I was super active and immersed in community before the move. I was on a social volleyball, kick back, and softball team. I loved all my teammates. We bbq’d , hung out, really bonded into a family. My coworkers were my girls and we were tight. I had gym friends, college friends, my best friend. I MADE A FAMILY. Mind you I wasn’t even from this area.
But for some reason I haven’t been able to find that where I currently am. Now I was pregnant by September so that made it even harder to get out but I tried really hard before that. I found a gym, I tried some of the social leagues, I researched places to make friends on social media and it just still hasn’t worked. My pregnant was so lonely.
My fiance works 7 days a week and his career doesn’t allow a lot of spare time during the season. So I’m just feeling soooo alone and it’s make my PPD hard to get through.
Idk what to do anymore.
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Hey mama, I understand the loneliness. It will get easier once you are up and about more with the baby. You’ll make mom friends. The best way to make those connections are through classes and parks you go to on a regular basis.
You can message me if you’d like a virtual penpal! I know I’m in NC but moms need support.
I went through something very similar, im not from this area either, I also havent been able to make any friends here. So hi my name is clara, I have a 17 month old daughter, would you like to be friends?
So you have a baby now? Try baby groups. Mothers groups. Any mummy and me fitness classes you can find. Libraries usually always have baby music rhyme time- try those. Go where other bored local mamas go and you’ll find them there. As for just women doing life, a hobby for yourself but for that you’ll need either childcare or partner support. A break is nice from baby as well, something just for me. For me that was Pilates, Zumba, and at 18m pp I delved into the Latin bachata/salsa community.
Hey there JuJu, I hate to hear you are going through this. Loneliness alone is hard, but then to add pregnancy with all the hormones on top of that....hard! Ill love to be your friend if you'd allow me to. I know over the phone is not exactly what you're looking for but im here if you ever need a friend. 🙂
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