Not feeling right

How did you figure out who you were? What your purpose was in life? For me, I always did for others, ever since I was a kid, because it made others feel good and same for me. But I didn't find out who I was. I still don't know who I am, but I know I love being around kids. I love my daughter, but, I feel empty. I don't have a sex drive, I don't feel like I am me. I feel kind of empty and lost.

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Same here…
Now I‘m afraid to talk to other people because I don’t really feel like myself anymore

I hear you. I still am figuring out who I am, what I like etc. I know I love being a mom but some days I don’t recognize myself. Just remember these feelings are very normal, it’s life changing becoming a mom, our whole worlds are completely different now. Just remember it won’t last forever, Hang in there and know there’s nothing wrong with you🩷

The truth is you are no longer the same person. As with any big life altering event, it changes you and you are put on a new path. As your child grows, you will continue to change with each stage! Your focus is just different now.
Ive been a mom since I was 16 and I just had my last at 40 (hopefully). With each kid, I've had to rediscover parts of me and readjust to them. But they grow up and move out eventually..and you start all over. I think of it as a new chapter of the same book.. Same characters. New info with each chapter.. shaping the person further. Its definitely not easy and its lonely bc only you are on your path and you have little control over this change. ❤️

After so many years of trauma, I came to the conclusion that my purpose in life is to live for myself. Simple as that. My purpose isn’t to be a mom or my job, even though I love it so much. It’s to live life and discover what brings me joy in life with all the changes in life.

I found it helpful to keep in mind to avoid telling myself “no” so quickly. A lot of times our minds are always going as mothers, so it’s easier and quicker for us to shut down our own ideas, most times before they even begin. Allowing yourself to keep talking with your thoughts through whether or not u should go do it (get that manicure, sign up for that pottery class, go for that walk, etc) is one of the main things that kept me discovering myself as a person again, try to also thinking on why you are telling yourself no, if you do because maybe you’ve grown out of stuff you used to do too. Anyways as soon as I just stated to myself that we will say “yes” more to the ideas in my head that I wanted to do, the more I started to feel like myself. Also you’re a mom but a person too so when you are considering something just try jumping into it and do it solo sometimes too!

Also, the purpose of life...for everyone...is LOVE. How you show it is going to change with each day and each opportunity. ❤️

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Have you ever pooped your self in public ?

I witnessed this happen a woman at the park yesterday and my heart went out to her . Is this common ? I’ve had a couple close calls 🫠

Please tell me this is normal

Of course I love this beautiful baby inside me. Of course I am SO UNBELIEVABLY excited to meet him/her (we don’t know the gender) but am I the only one who’s 37 weeks pregnant who doesn’t feel this unrelenting undying maternal connection to their baby? So far my baby has been my little buddy - we play tag through my belly, I love when they’re active and knowing that 50% of me and 50% of the person I love most in this world have created life but I still don’t have that connection I keep hearing about. Is something wrong with me?

Maybe I’m a weirdo

I am single 40 year old with two children and I feel I don’t have any friends. I find it hard to make connections and when I do speak with potential female friends, I think I over compensate and talk for England. All I would like is a friend who I can be my true self with.

Alone and disconnected

I moved to an entire new state i March of last year after losing my job. My fiance and I were in different states because of our careers. We took that as a sign it was time for me to move so we could actually be together year round.

I was super active and immersed in community before the move. I was on a social volleyball, kick back, and softball team. I loved all my teammates. We bbq’d , hung out, really bonded into a family. My coworkers were my girls and we were tight. I had gym friends, college friends, my best friend. I MADE A FAMILY. Mind you I wasn’t even from this area.

But for some reason I haven’t been able to find that where I currently am. Now I was pregnant by September so that made it even harder to get out but I tried really hard before that. I found a gym, I tried some of the social leagues, I researched places to make friends on social media and it just still hasn’t worked. My pregnant was so lonely.

My fiance works 7 days a week and his career doesn’t allow a lot of spare time during the season. So I’m just feeling soooo alone and it’s make my PPD hard to get through.

Idk what to do anymore.

Would this make you question an online friendship, or am I overthinking it?

I have an online friend I’ve known for a while. We’ve FaceTimed, gone live together, talked regularly, etc. However, I’ve noticed that I’m often the one who has to reach out first.
The other thing that’s been bothering me is that over the last 3–4 months, he’s asked me for probably 4–5 different times. The amounts have been small — things like $5, $15, $30 — but I’ve never offered him money, and I’ve never actually sent him anything.
He’s recently started a new full-time job and says he won’t get his first paycheck until next week, which I understand can happen with a new job depending on the payroll schedule.
What really makes me question it, though, is that I’m literally due to have my baby any day now. I’ve been pregnant this entire time, and despite knowing I’m this close to giving birth, he’s still asked me for money multiple times over the past few months.
Am I wrong for feeling like that’s kind of off? It’s not even necessarily the amount of money — it’s the fact that someone I’m supposedly friends with keeps asking me for money when I’ve never given them any indication that I’m willing to do that.
Would you see this as a red flag that he may be keeping me around because he thinks eventually I’ll give in, or am I reading too much into it?

This shit is breaking me.

Feels like I've been reaching out for help for days now and still nothing. Im pretty sure when I lose my shit ppl will wonder why.