Daycare

Hi mommas! I need some advice on daycare. A little back story about my daughter…
She is almost 22 months and she is a VERY strong willed little girl. She WILL test boundaries and continue to do things she knows she not supposed to, she is very independent and is very emotional about what she wants. Some would say she is defiant. She doesn’t have the best communication skills so it’s challenging for her to communicate her needs and emotions. She is also very much a mommas girl. She has a hard time being without me even when it’s her dad. She is very very attached to me. I work part time and my MIL has been watching her. I would like her to be in daycare because I believe it will help her developmentally. We started a daycare 1 week ago, she goes M/W/F. The whole week has been very hard. She’s emotional all day every day. Doesn’t play with any of the friends very much and was pulling hair one of the days. I know it’s still early to judge if daycare is right but i definitely would like some advice. Anything would be helpful.

in our community

Is this teething?

His right cheek is also flushed

Grandparents

Has anyone had the grandparents or extended family trying to give your baby sweets before 1? Such as icing or popsicles or anything with added sugar? Like yes we know you raised us & you have children, but this is MY child you know.

At the point where I’ve had enough! (Mums advice please!!)

I really need some honest advice because I don’t know if I’m finally at the point of leaving or just completely drained.

I’ve been with my partner for years and we have two children, including a 4-month-old. I’ve been trying to tell him for months, even years, how unhappy and lonely I feel, but nothing ever changes. I keep having the same conversations and eventually end up feeling like I’m begging for the bare minimum.

Over the last month I’ve completely lost trust in him. He’s constantly got his eyes on other women when we’re out, he’s been lusting over other women, watching porn behind my back, looking at women on social media and I’ve found things on his phone that have really hurt me. I don’t have proof he’s physically cheated, but I don’t trust him anymore.

Yesterday I wore a thick vest-style top with no bra. Because my boobs are bigger, it wasn’t particularly revealing, but he told me he wasn’t going out with me dressed like that because other men would look at me and he felt it was disrespectful. He basically said if I didn’t change, he’d rather I went out on my own. Yet I’m constantly watching him look at other women when we’re out. That double standard really gets to me.

Since having the baby I’ve struggled with my body, and all of this has made me feel like I’m not enough.

He’s not affectionate with me at all anymore. No cuddling, kissing, compliments or real effort to make me feel wanted. He’s either on his phone, vaping, going to bed or doing his own thing. I’ve also had some really nasty arguments with him where he’s spoken to me horribly, sometimes in front of our child.

I’ve had the kids most of the week and when I ask for help, it can turn into an argument. I feel incredibly lonely. I love my children more than anything, but being with them all day and then feeling like I have nobody to actually connect with when he comes home is really getting to me.

The worst part is I think I’ve fallen out of love with him.

We went to the cinema and for a drink recently and I was just bored. We had sex afterwards and although I was really in the mood beforehand, once we actually did it I felt completely emotionally checked out. I felt nothing.

Now I’m literally arguing with him to spend time with me. Today I suggested doing something as a family and he just wants to stay home.

I’m starting to think that even if there isn’t someone else, I don’t want this relationship anymore.

Am I finally seeing that this relationship isn’t right for me, or am I just exhausted and hurt?

Be brutally honest, mums. Would you stay and try to repair this, or would you walk away?

Questions to ask at Nursery Viewings

Hey! I’m a first time mum going to nursery viewings tomorrow and Tuesday and just wanted some suggestions for questions to ask as I feel completely out of my depth but at the same time like it’s the most important decision I’ve had to make so far. Anything you can think of or that you wish you’d asked or looked for in advance would be super helpful. Thank you so much 💕🙏

Am I wrong for kicking off?

I’m so stressed, so emotional, so overwhelmed and so ready to pop! I’m 39 weeks today and I honestly am so fed up. With everything and everyone. I’m doing this whole thing alone, and feel so isolated and like no one cares 😒
Relationship with baby’s dad broke down; he said he would be there for me but isn’t really interested. He lives a good few hours away from me and has said he wants to be present for birth but due to him not being around or there for me during pregnancy, I’m in 2 minds whether to even let him know when I go into labour. That’s if if he even makes it to the hospital in time. (Don’t know if I’m being spiteful here.)
My family have also been a joke. Barely been there for me, so going to scans and appointments etc I’m always alone. Which is hard when I see people at the appointments with at least someone.
Things have been strained with my mum, since forever so we’re up and down most times. However, I’ve got to give her credit. These last couple weeks I’ve had to have extra scans due to docs being worried about baby’s weight/reduced movements etc. and my mum has given me a lift to the hospital so has helped in that aspect.
I’m now a week from giving birth and aware that I’ve still got loads to do/things still need to be bought etc. Very overwhelming!!
I have realised I need a Moses basket for downstairs and buying one outright for over £100 is quite expensive.. so I’ve looked on fb marketplace and found a cheapish one, good condition, collection 11 miles away.
I have asked mother dearest if she’ll take me to collect the item on Monday if I give her some petrol money. She has said it’s too far for her to drive and refuses to help me. (I don’t drive) But I’m confused as when my sister was sent to jail earlier in the year, she was happy to drive 6 hours to London to go visit her in jail. She drives miles to take her partner to funerals for random people but I’m asking for her help (for a journey 11miles away) as her daughter for an item for her granddaughter and she is refusing to help.
So I’ve said a few words to her last night as I don’t think it’s fair she goes above and beyond for everyone else but for me, she can never help out and now we are not talking again. Am I wrong for this?
Please can I get peoples thoughts as I’m going out my mind.

Discipline

Does anyone have any ideas for disciplining a 2 year old? She's to little to understand a time out I've tried. I've also tried just explaining none of it works.