am i an asshole?

I'm going to try my hardest to explain myself and my feelings as best as possible here. This is the second time that this is happening to me/ i'm feeling this way, and I'm beginning to wonder if maybe I'm the problem.

So I had this friend that I have known since we were in preschool together. She and I have been besties ever since. I had my son and shortly after, she had gotten pregnant and was due with her first baby right before my son turned 2. Around the time she told me she was pregnant, I was in the thick of motherhood. I had to become a stay at home mom, my son was still not sleeping through the night, and I was having a hard time trying to find who I was again. Literally every conversation with my friend became pregnancy or baby related and it just got extremely annoying. Any attempt at making conversation about anything else was ghosted or short lived before returning to talking about baby things. Now, don't get me wrong, I wanted to hear ALL things baby, but i didn't feel like 100% of our conversations should have been about that. I feel like, since we were friends for years, we should've been able to maintain conversations about other things. Unfortunately, we ended up falling out.

Now, I am having my third baby and I still feel this way, except it's a completely different friend that this exact situation is happening again. I'm not the type of person to talk about my kids or my pregnancy 100% of the time. I have other interests. I'm not just a mom. I love talking politics, pets, movies, conspiracy theories etc. I love reading / writing. I just feel like we can talk about those things, too. Not just baby or mom talk. Especially if these are friends who have bonded with me over those things in the past.

Is this feeling valid or am I just an asshole ???

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My poor boy 😭

So I get off work come home yesterday and my baby is sitting on the couch with an ice pack on his mouth. So little background info so his 2 yr old brother decided he's going to pick up his brother's pup pad and swing it at him hitting him in the mouth splitting his lip and breaking his baby tooth :'( so now I gotta call his dentist tomorrow and hope that he doesn't need anything done but he might.. anyways does anyone have any tips ideas on how to get a feral 2 yr old boy to stop being so aggressive towards his brother? We have done timeouts, talking to him about gentle hands and asking him to show us gentle hands. But nothing seems to get him to realize it's not ok and he needs to stop.. most times he comes out of his timeout and he does it again. Normally it's a punch or a smack to his brother not usually a hard toy being swung at him...

"I dont like you daddy"

So my 5 year old daughter has always been a mummy's girl but the past year 80% time she will be horrible to her dad/my partner.
She will say "i dont like you" to me during a tantrum but she really goes at my partner for absolutely no reason 90% time.
She shouts "go away" to him when he walks in the room.
Its really upsetting him and I keep telling him she doesnt mean it and to ignore it but i know its really affecting him and he struggles in the moment and will say things like "fine I'll go"/storm up stairs or he will argue with her..which is of course making her do it more as shes getting a reaction.
I'm just after some advice really..is this a faze?

What do I do

I took my daughter to her nursery friends birthday party today and one of the birthday girls relatives bit my daughter I didn’t want to cause a scene so I let the mother of the birthday girl know we were leaving as my daughter was really upset and told her why we were going she didn’t say anything so I text her and she read my texts and I sent a picture of my daughters arm and got no response back I’m just fuming and can’t stop thinking about it I feel like I should have just kicked off cuz I’m raging

Don't Get a Divorce for the Sake of the Baby🧸

I’m in a pretty delicate situation. I have a three-month-old baby, and I’ve been married for four years, but it seems like our marriage may be coming to an end.

We have both accepted that, for our baby’s sake, we will probably need to stay together until he is at least two or three years old. There is still love between us.

As a new mother, with all the hormonal and emotional changes that come with this period, I feel very conflicted about how I should behave and what mindset I should have.

Do I tell myself, “He is still my husband, I still love him,” and continue living as though nothing has really changed until the relationship eventually ends? That would include continuing to have a sexual and affectionate relationship with him, but I’m afraid that this could make me even more emotionally vulnerable and make the eventual separation much more painful.

Or should I start creating some emotional and physical distance now — less touching, less intimacy, and more of a roommate/co-parent relationship? That also feels incredibly difficult when you still love the person. It feels sad for both of us, because it would mean not really being able to comfort, support, or be close to each other during such an intense period of our lives.

At the same time, seeing other people while we are still married is not something I consider ethically acceptable.

I’m genuinely torn between protecting myself emotionally and allowing myself to continue loving and being close to my husband while we still have this time together. What do you think is the healthiest way to approach a situation like this?

Shot

Has anyone else had to take a tdap shot / tetanus shot while pregnant? My primary care physician has recommended me this shot and i’m curious if anyone else has taken it.

Mourning 3 years later

My daughters father died 3 years ago from a drug overdose/suicide. I still cry and listen to our song. We werent together when he died but we were very close and practically best friends co parenting (no he was not an acitive addict he just used it to commit suicide). Its just really sad i couldn't save him and he didnt open up to me.

My husband now of 2 years loves my daughter and our 2 children together. And is very supportive when i have a night where im just dancing to our song in the kitchen.

Friday will be 3 years since he passed. Anyone have any tips on how to deal with grief?