Am I wrong! I get up out of bed because I hear my asd son screaming and my husband did a jujitsu move on (kicked feet out from under him to lay him down) well he was visibly upset and wanted away from him and when I got closer he grab my

Does your husband often use jujitsu as part of his "parenting"? A lot of people think that asd kids don't feel pain. Especially those that self harm. They absolutely do. He should leave honestly. Clearly he doesn't know how to regulate himself and he's a danger to your child.

Just to be clear your husband is an abuser and it might not seem that way because he's doing it to someone who doesn't understand and cannot vocalize their pain. What would you do if your husband kicked your feet from under your body? So you're wrong in the sense you're not protecting your child.

Edit it to say I understand the struggles of having an asd kid and the stress it puts on relationships. Family life is never really "normal" but using martial arts on your kid cannot be part of the abnormality of it all.

That man does not sound safe.

How I see it, It’s better off that he’s gone.

I'm glad he packed a bag and left. Don't let him come back.

He needs to stay gone. I fully understand being an ASD parent is overwhelming, we don't get sleep a lot of days and things can honestly suck sometimes but you are your sons voice when he can't speak for himself. This is insane to do to a child.