Favourite children
My partner has a child with a previous ex, a girl who’s now 4. He buys her everything, clothes, toys, plans days out, absolutely everything. Everytime I’ve mentioned how I can’t wait to do something such as a bike for our 11 month old son as these were prime memories of my childhood he will go out and buy the thing I’ve mentioned for his other child. I’ve also started recently collecting blue nose teddies for my son and there small and can be safely in his cot and when I was small I used to collect certain lines of teddies, I then later found out he started doing the same thing for his child with his ex partner yet shows no interest in me doing it for our son. He hasn’t bought him anything since he’s been born or even when I was pregnant and when he promised to help when he was a newborn he was bearly ever here however when he had his baby with his ex and they split up pretty soon he’d go round to help with bath and bed 3 days a week.
I’m also pretty sure he ditched me and his son to go and spend Father’s Day with his other child at his own dads house as I had lots of things planned and he didn’t show up. Bearing in mind I was so so excited because this is the first ever Father’s Day I ever got to plan as it may not be a first for him but it’s a big first for me. He never plans any days out for me and my son it’s always me and I buy everything, every toy and every item of clothing. Ontop of that his first birthdays coming up soon and I’ve chosen all the gifts and planned the whole party on my own but when it comes down to his child with his previous partner he goes out and spends hundreds. He even ditched my son and I on Christmas Eve to go out and spend 4 hours in Smyths for his other child and didn’t bring 1 thing back for our son (don’t get me wrong, he was 3 months old then) but even just a little gesture or teddy or anything. I had to go shopping for our son for his Christmas presents on my own whilst he did that.
He despises his ex as she lied to him about being on birth control and hr never wanted a child with her but did want one with me so why does he do nothing for my son but does everything for his other child and also helped out his ex partner more when she lives with her parents and didn’t do anything for me when Blake was born and I was all on my own.
I hate this situation
My husband and I have been on the edge of divorce for a while. He spends thousands of dollars on this card game to buy and sell, but whenever he sells, he just reinvests whatever he earned or he buys stuff for his personal collection. He even spent $650 of our son’s birthday money on ONE single card for his personal collection. It got so bad that he emptied our joint bank account that had around 25k in it, but has all this money in cards value, which he says is better than a savings account cuz they’re like “stocks”. I have my own bank account where I put all the money I make (I bartend at a fancy steakhouse) so he can’t touch it. I have a friend who I feel like I’m falling for despite me trying not to do this cuz this friend is very know it all and always criticizing me, tell me to leave my husband (it’s hard cuz we have two kids under 7) but at the same time I feel his friend love and we spend a lot of time together. Ppl who don’t know us always think we are dating. We both bartend at diff places but get off around the same time and we often times meet up for dinner or drinks after work. I know I’ll never be with this friend of mine because he’s looking for a wife and to have kids, but a part of me wants to move on from my husband and be with this friend of mine, cus I feel like he might date me if I’m single and divorced. We never touch each other and we’ve been totally platonic but last night we went to a rave and were really cuddly and snuggly cuz of the uh, substances we took. I know it meant nothing to him but he felt so nice to have his arms wrapped around me and hands all over my hips and body. We did not kiss or anything but, it felt like we were bf and gf for a few hours and when I went to the bathroom later on, I discovered that I was uh, turned on. I’ve told my husband before that I have a crush on this friend but my husband doesn’t really care. I think he thinks I’m joking or something. But anyway, yea. I don’t know why I wanted to share this because I know yall gonna be mad at me 🥲 it just hurts I’ll never be with this friend of mine and it seems there’s nothing I can do to shake the feelings I have for him. It’s like, I don’t have feelings, but I do to a degree? I don’t know if that makes any sense but that’s the best way I can describe these feelings I have. I love him as a friend so much but I crave his desire for me at the same time. I’m hoping these feelings will pass eventually.
