Ready to give in to intervention- rant

39+5 and I am honestly ready to give up and cry. I am getting daily messages from people asking how I am, any sign of baby etc... And I am so done. Already last week I started ignoring people but they just keep messaging! My dad intentionally calls me to wind me up to the point I've told him if he does it again I'll be blocking him (he already isn't respecting boundaries telling me I WILL tell him I'm in labour so he can come visit me in hospital even though I've said no). The only way I feel like I can get through this is by being in my bubble and it's hard when you're getting constant messages. I'm tired, I'm fed up, I'm grumpy and people will be told when baby is here so why can't they just leave me alone. I don't want intervention but I am so ready to give in. Not great for the oxytocin production 🤣

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Gal put your phone on DND and protect your peace.

The best thing to induce labour is to be relaxed, and being constantly hounded will not help.

My little one came at 40+1, all I really did was try to get a little walk in everyday, a small amount of curb walking but the rest was literally me just protecting my peace and enjoying the last of me being pregnant.

You’ve got this. You’re doing amazing 💞💞

You’ve got this, try and let it run off like water off a ducks back.

Sounds like you’ve got a good plan to relax!

Although I tried to pick up crotchet and I found that wound me up more because I couldn’t get it 😂

Your little one will come soon 💞💞

Totally feel you. My parents came from my home country to support me two weeks before my due date which was yesterday and nothing has happened yet. Once they were here, my husband just kind of stopped caring because he knows I'm not alone so I'm basically passing all my free time with my parents taking walks in the evening for example. I feel like one of those pregnant teenagers 😞 my relatives keep asking about the baby and I've nothing to say! I'm also dealing with pregnancy thrush again. I'm not sure about having another sweep with the midwife as the first one miserably failed. I'll probably just ask for an induction as soon as possible so all this will be over. I'm tired of this belly and the more I wait the more anxious I become thinking about placenta not working properly, umbellical cord around my baby's neck, baby movements or meconius. Induction is not the most pleasant experience but I'd rather suffering knowing that I'm ending this pregnancy to finally meet my baby boy.

Aww bless you, I would honestly mute everyone and just try to focus on staying busy and distracted. Generally we get close to 37 weeks and start hoping baby will come cos it’s so hard at this stage (I’m currently 38+5) but the truth is they come when they’re ready/the time is right. If you don’t want intervention - I’m the same - just hold on to that and your reasons, and try meditation to create that bubble for yourself! Hang in there x

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Cheating..

Found out my partner was going to massage parlors for “happy endings.” A couple of months ago I also found out he had pursued another women while I was pregnant. I have 2 kids, one with him and another from a prior relationship (his dad’s deceased) …he said he’s going to change and pursue therapy and when he’d get stress , that’s what his stress would lead him to do. I’m 30 and feel like a failure. I have 2 kids with 2 different men and although the first one was out of my control , I’m sad that this relationship has failed. He’s saying he’s going to change and he wants to be a family.
Should I stay and try to work things out… I do feel like my worth is down because I do have two kids with two different men. How should I navigate this? Is this how men deal with their stress? 😕 I’ve know this man for 15+ years, since middle school.. I thought I knew better.

Favourite children

My partner has a child with a previous ex, a girl who’s now 4. He buys her everything, clothes, toys, plans days out, absolutely everything. Everytime I’ve mentioned how I can’t wait to do something such as a bike for our 11 month old son as these were prime memories of my childhood he will go out and buy the thing I’ve mentioned for his other child. I’ve also started recently collecting blue nose teddies for my son and there small and can be safely in his cot and when I was small I used to collect certain lines of teddies, I then later found out he started doing the same thing for his child with his ex partner yet shows no interest in me doing it for our son. He hasn’t bought him anything since he’s been born or even when I was pregnant and when he promised to help when he was a newborn he was bearly ever here however when he had his baby with his ex and they split up pretty soon he’d go round to help with bath and bed 3 days a week.

I’m also pretty sure he ditched me and his son to go and spend Father’s Day with his other child at his own dads house as I had lots of things planned and he didn’t show up. Bearing in mind I was so so excited because this is the first ever Father’s Day I ever got to plan as it may not be a first for him but it’s a big first for me. He never plans any days out for me and my son it’s always me and I buy everything, every toy and every item of clothing. Ontop of that his first birthdays coming up soon and I’ve chosen all the gifts and planned the whole party on my own but when it comes down to his child with his previous partner he goes out and spends hundreds. He even ditched my son and I on Christmas Eve to go out and spend 4 hours in Smyths for his other child and didn’t bring 1 thing back for our son (don’t get me wrong, he was 3 months old then) but even just a little gesture or teddy or anything. I had to go shopping for our son for his Christmas presents on my own whilst he did that.

He despises his ex as she lied to him about being on birth control and hr never wanted a child with her but did want one with me so why does he do nothing for my son but does everything for his other child and also helped out his ex partner more when she lives with her parents and didn’t do anything for me when Blake was born and I was all on my own.

Pocket money?

So I'm currently a sahm with no source of income. My husband works and pays for everything. I do my bit he does his bit. Its very harmonious. I never needed pocket money before but now, with a baby, its becoming inconvenient to not have cash on hand or have anything for myself. Like i havent had a haircut in years and i cant go on coffee dates. Anyone made an arrangement with their husband?
Hes more than willing but i hate asking. No judgement pls

I hate this situation

My husband and I have been on the edge of divorce for a while. He spends thousands of dollars on this card game to buy and sell, but whenever he sells, he just reinvests whatever he earned or he buys stuff for his personal collection. He even spent $650 of our son’s birthday money on ONE single card for his personal collection. It got so bad that he emptied our joint bank account that had around 25k in it, but has all this money in cards value, which he says is better than a savings account cuz they’re like “stocks”. I have my own bank account where I put all the money I make (I bartend at a fancy steakhouse) so he can’t touch it. I have a friend who I feel like I’m falling for despite me trying not to do this cuz this friend is very know it all and always criticizing me, tell me to leave my husband (it’s hard cuz we have two kids under 7) but at the same time I feel his friend love and we spend a lot of time together. Ppl who don’t know us always think we are dating. We both bartend at diff places but get off around the same time and we often times meet up for dinner or drinks after work. I know I’ll never be with this friend of mine because he’s looking for a wife and to have kids, but a part of me wants to move on from my husband and be with this friend of mine, cus I feel like he might date me if I’m single and divorced. We never touch each other and we’ve been totally platonic but last night we went to a rave and were really cuddly and snuggly cuz of the uh, substances we took. I know it meant nothing to him but he felt so nice to have his arms wrapped around me and hands all over my hips and body. We did not kiss or anything but, it felt like we were bf and gf for a few hours and when I went to the bathroom later on, I discovered that I was uh, turned on. I’ve told my husband before that I have a crush on this friend but my husband doesn’t really care. I think he thinks I’m joking or something. But anyway, yea. I don’t know why I wanted to share this because I know yall gonna be mad at me 🥲 it just hurts I’ll never be with this friend of mine and it seems there’s nothing I can do to shake the feelings I have for him. It’s like, I don’t have feelings, but I do to a degree? I don’t know if that makes any sense but that’s the best way I can describe these feelings I have. I love him as a friend so much but I crave his desire for me at the same time. I’m hoping these feelings will pass eventually.

Weaning

How is everyone weaning their 7 month old - as in what is your set daily routine food / bottle wise?

Thanks 😊

My partner is working too many hours and I am not coping well.

He worked a double from Friday night to Saturday afternoon. He’s working a double again today Sunday morning to midnight Monday. And goes back tomorrow at 4pm.

I never wanted to send our child to school but I am counting down the days til I’m not the only one managing my fucking child.

I’m so fucking tired. I’m so fucking burnt out. I’m so sick of trying to sit for 4 fucking seconds and my house falling apart. I’m so fucking over it.