I hate this situation

My husband and I have been on the edge of divorce for a while. He spends thousands of dollars on this card game to buy and sell, but whenever he sells, he just reinvests whatever he earned or he buys stuff for his personal collection. He even spent $650 of our son’s birthday money on ONE single card for his personal collection. It got so bad that he emptied our joint bank account that had around 25k in it, but has all this money in cards value, which he says is better than a savings account cuz they’re like “stocks”. I have my own bank account where I put all the money I make (I bartend at a fancy steakhouse) so he can’t touch it. I have a friend who I feel like I’m falling for despite me trying not to do this cuz this friend is very know it all and always criticizing me, tell me to leave my husband (it’s hard cuz we have two kids under 7) but at the same time I feel his friend love and we spend a lot of time together. Ppl who don’t know us always think we are dating. We both bartend at diff places but get off around the same time and we often times meet up for dinner or drinks after work. I know I’ll never be with this friend of mine because he’s looking for a wife and to have kids, but a part of me wants to move on from my husband and be with this friend of mine, cus I feel like he might date me if I’m single and divorced. We never touch each other and we’ve been totally platonic but last night we went to a rave and were really cuddly and snuggly cuz of the uh, substances we took. I know it meant nothing to him but he felt so nice to have his arms wrapped around me and hands all over my hips and body. We did not kiss or anything but, it felt like we were bf and gf for a few hours and when I went to the bathroom later on, I discovered that I was uh, turned on. I’ve told my husband before that I have a crush on this friend but my husband doesn’t really care. I think he thinks I’m joking or something. But anyway, yea. I don’t know why I wanted to share this because I know yall gonna be mad at me 🥲 it just hurts I’ll never be with this friend of mine and it seems there’s nothing I can do to shake the feelings I have for him. It’s like, I don’t have feelings, but I do to a degree? I don’t know if that makes any sense but that’s the best way I can describe these feelings I have. I love him as a friend so much but I crave his desire for me at the same time. I’m hoping these feelings will pass eventually.

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Cheating..

Found out my partner was going to massage parlors for “happy endings.” A couple of months ago I also found out he had pursued another women while I was pregnant. I have 2 kids, one with him and another from a prior relationship (his dad’s deceased) …he said he’s going to change and pursue therapy and when he’d get stress , that’s what his stress would lead him to do. I’m 30 and feel like a failure. I have 2 kids with 2 different men and although the first one was out of my control , I’m sad that this relationship has failed. He’s saying he’s going to change and he wants to be a family.
Should I stay and try to work things out… I do feel like my worth is down because I do have two kids with two different men. How should I navigate this? Is this how men deal with their stress? 😕 I’ve know this man for 15+ years, since middle school.. I thought I knew better.

Daycare

Hi mommas! I need some advice on daycare. A little back story about my daughter…
She is almost 22 months and she is a VERY strong willed little girl. She WILL test boundaries and continue to do things she knows she not supposed to, she is very independent and is very emotional about what she wants. Some would say she is defiant. She doesn’t have the best communication skills so it’s challenging for her to communicate her needs and emotions. She is also very much a mommas girl. She has a hard time being without me even when it’s her dad. She is very very attached to me. I work part time and my MIL has been watching her. I would like her to be in daycare because I believe it will help her developmentally. We started a daycare 1 week ago, she goes M/W/F. The whole week has been very hard. She’s emotional all day every day. Doesn’t play with any of the friends very much and was pulling hair one of the days. I know it’s still early to judge if daycare is right but i definitely would like some advice. Anything would be helpful.

Pocket money?

So I'm currently a sahm with no source of income. My husband works and pays for everything. I do my bit he does his bit. Its very harmonious. I never needed pocket money before but now, with a baby, its becoming inconvenient to not have cash on hand or have anything for myself. Like i havent had a haircut in years and i cant go on coffee dates. Anyone made an arrangement with their husband?
Hes more than willing but i hate asking. No judgement pls

What's something you would do if you had a child free day?

What's something that's on your list to do (apart from resting LOL) that you would do if you had a child free day?

Am I crazy to think I’m not allowed to hang out with my niece and nephew anymore?

As of lately, my husband has been having this idea that my brother doesn’t like him for some odd reason. It’s gotten to the point that he’s accused me of being there more for my brother than my own husband and my child which is totally ridiculous. Today my brother texted me inviting us out to eat, but I didn’t go because I knew my husband would say no so then again my brother invited us to an ice cream shop. My husband started working in his office. I told him me and my son would go because I also wanna see my niece and nephew. My husband makes the statement. “ watch our son don’t take your eyes away from him.” I ask him why he says that and he says.” well you always go towards your niece and nephew and disregard of our son whenever you’re around them.” I decided to not respond because it’s now starting to seem like I can’t even hang out with my brother. It’s my niece and my nephew and my son.

Keep in mind this is not the first second or third time he makes comments like this. What should I do?

I dislike this man so much !!

Yesterday my in-laws came over for dinner I cooked cleaned the whole house while dealing with the kids and this man just slept the whole day literally he didn’t wake up till 30 min before his parents came over at which point he went in the shower he was getting dressed when they showed up. Everything was fine after dinner they left and this man went straight to the couch while I cleaned up and put the kids to sleep. I fell asleep with my daughter in our room she was laying where he sleeps when he came in to bed a was so loud he woke her up after that she was fussy the whole night I didn’t sleep. This morning I asked him to watch them while I get some rest he said okay. I go up to rest 10min later both kids came jumping on me I asked where he was my son says daddy’s tired I go down he’s on his phone playing games. I let it go and got up and made the kids food. Then he comes bout he’s hungry he’s gonna make a frozen pizza I said okay but in on a pan or tan foil when he puts it in the oven. Nope he lost it at me bout he’s wants to put it directly on the oven rack. I asked him not to do that because if it makes a mess I’m the one who’s gonna have to clean. Then he starts going on bout there’s nothing for him to eat. I only grocery shop for things me and the kids like. I start showing him all the food and the house that I buy because he likes it. All the food that I bought just a few days ago but he’s too lazy to make anything he won’t even serve his own food I have to do it or he won’t eat. Now he’s here pissed off looking at me like he’s gonna throw something at my head. I warned him I will call the police immediately if he puts a finger on me.