Am I crazy to think I’m not allowed to hang out with my niece and nephew anymore?

As of lately, my husband has been having this idea that my brother doesn’t like him for some odd reason. It’s gotten to the point that he’s accused me of being there more for my brother than my own husband and my child which is totally ridiculous. Today my brother texted me inviting us out to eat, but I didn’t go because I knew my husband would say no so then again my brother invited us to an ice cream shop. My husband started working in his office. I told him me and my son would go because I also wanna see my niece and nephew. My husband makes the statement. “ watch our son don’t take your eyes away from him.” I ask him why he says that and he says.” well you always go towards your niece and nephew and disregard of our son whenever you’re around them.” I decided to not respond because it’s now starting to seem like I can’t even hang out with my brother. It’s my niece and my nephew and my son.

Keep in mind this is not the first second or third time he makes comments like this. What should I do?

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So from only going off what you wrote, from an outsider looking in I would say this.. I would ask him if there is a reason he is saying “ watch our son don’t take your eyes off him”… I would ask is he saying this because of something that happened to make him feel like your son is unsafe, and listen, If there is nothing for him to say in that regard I would ask more on the issue of why he feels like you care more about your brother than him as well as if something happened between him you your brother you don’t know about…. after those responses if it’s not a valid reason stick to your instincts on your brother and nieces and nephews are family.

I know it might not be the greatest advice but don’t isolate if there is no reason. But also listen to see if there is.

I’m sorry you are going through this.

Have you spoken to your brother and asked him whether he doesn’t like your husband for some reason all of a sudden?

Could your brother possibly have caught your husband cheating/doing some shady shit and now your husband is trying to get ahead of it all and make you turn against him too? Just a thought.

I would shut this shit down immediately though. Whatever BS is going on with your husband, you need to let him know in no uncertain terms that 1) his false implications that your son is neglected in favour of his cousins when you see them are hurtful and absurd and he needs to stop that and 2) you are going to carry on seeing your brother and his kids as they are your family and you love them and they are not a part of his beef with your brother.

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