My partner has a child with a previous ex, a girl who’s now 4. He buys her everything, clothes, toys, plans days out, absolutely everything. Everytime I’ve mentioned how I can’t wait to do something such as a bike for our 11 month old son as these were prime memories of my childhood he will go out and buy the thing I’ve mentioned for his other child. I’ve also started recently collecting blue nose teddies for my son and there small and can be safely in his cot and when I was small I used to collect certain lines of teddies, I then later found out he started doing the same thing for his child with his ex partner yet shows no interest in me doing it for our son. He hasn’t bought him anything since he’s been born or even when I was pregnant and when he promised to help when he was a newborn he was bearly ever here however when he had his baby with his ex and they split up pretty soon he’d go round to help with bath and bed 3 days a week.
I’m also pretty sure he ditched me and his son to go and spend Father’s Day with his other child at his own dads house as I had lots of things planned and he didn’t show up. Bearing in mind I was so so excited because this is the first ever Father’s Day I ever got to plan as it may not be a first for him but it’s a big first for me. He never plans any days out for me and my son it’s always me and I buy everything, every toy and every item of clothing. Ontop of that his first birthdays coming up soon and I’ve chosen all the gifts and planned the whole party on my own but when it comes down to his child with his previous partner he goes out and spends hundreds. He even ditched my son and I on Christmas Eve to go out and spend 4 hours in Smyths for his other child and didn’t bring 1 thing back for our son (don’t get me wrong, he was 3 months old then) but even just a little gesture or teddy or anything. I had to go shopping for our son for his Christmas presents on my own whilst he did that.
He despises his ex as she lied to him about being on birth control and hr never wanted a child with her but did want one with me so why does he do nothing for my son but does everything for his other child and also helped out his ex partner more when she lives with her parents and didn’t do anything for me when Blake was born and I was all on my own.
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Ahh sorry to hear this. Reading it does sound abit off and truly he shouldn’t act more on 1 child and not the other. They are both his kids but I say, I just needs to try be more involved with both. But also must be hard because he’s inbetween the two plus, I’m thinking maybe there may be some more going on. You may have to check with him. Hope this helps. xo

Hoping not but is his ex using their child to get him to do stuff? Like buy them more so he can see her?
If not and this is all off his own back he sounds extremely unreasonable and as your child grows up they will notice the difference in treatment.

Does he really hate his ex? Any chance that he is seeing her more / has more feelings for her than he is letting on?