He’s acting like nothing happened

Husband was caught cheating and moved out last week. Real cocky too cuz she was gonna let him move in with her. Well she found out he had a family (she was a victim in this too), and she left him. She messaged me a huge apology and swore she really didn’t know until she introduced him to her friends and her besties bd recognized him. Came home tonight and he’s just standing in the kitchen washing dishes (he never washed dishes once in the 6 years we’ve been together) and smiles and says “hey baby, how was your day?” And the kids obviously get so excited to see him so I bit my tongue in front of them. But now he’s just in the kitchen organizing the junk drawer and calling me babe and being like everything is normal while I get them ready for bed. He came in and even asked me if I’d like him to have a glass of wine waiting for me in the kitchen and kissed my head while the kids were watching.

I feel like I’m in some fever dream like did we not break up and he moved out?? Did he really think this tactic would work? Like what is even happening!?? What am I even supposed to say to him when I go out there?

“Hey I don’t know what all this is but you need to leave. We can’t just pretend none of this happened.” Is about all I got, but I am soo weak for him i don’t trust myself to have this conversation and actually make him leave, but I don’t want him to stay either.

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I won’t tell you what to do.

However, I will say this: you are setting the standard and example of your expectations of how a person should treat you.

Make your choice accordingly. Good luck. 🍀

I’d go to my room lock the door and text him to get out of my house, your not a second choice and neither are your children! Put you first. Good luck ❤️

I wouldnt engage in a conversation especially this late. Text him that he needs to go somewhere else. Hotel. Friends. Not your problem but cant stay here. Hes love bombing and gaslighting you thinking you're gonna fall for his stupidity

Omg i’m so sorry that has to be the most devastating thing ever 🥺 praying for your healing ❤️‍🩹 Absolutely give him the silent treatment after you tell him about himself ( calmly men get scared when you show no emotion ) If you still feel you can’t let him go .. fast & pray & ask God to handle it ( if you’re religious) and stay busy act like he doesn’t even exist unless it’s about the kids but absolutely don’t play along with his games like nothing ever happened bc then he’ll think everything is fine and that’s not standard you wanna set for your children and most importantly yourself. it’ll be hard but you’ll feel better having self respect than pretending like nothing happened. I would say pack up and leave so he realizes what he ruined but idk your situation. wishing you the best coming from someone that literally went through something similar. ❤️

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