Feeling so alone

Hi! Just want to vent a little. I am an immigrant in the US (CA) and it is just me and my husband. I have a really hard time making friends and I also do a lonely job so it is already hard to meet people in person. I have a couple of acquaintances that I chat with but nothing more, they live all far away or have different lives. My best friend of 20 years (who lives on the other side of the world now but we always made do) abandoned me when I gave birth and texted me 4 times in 18 months. I think it is because she is childless and sterilized by choice and thinks I judge her? I tried to say there is no way I judge her at all, but we just grew apart. I am also having a rough patch with my husband started when we had the baby because he struggles to reconcile life with a toddler with what he want out of life and he struggles to accept that this is a season of life where we need to limit ourselves sometimes. He is the only person I talk to, if we don’t count the cashiers at stores. I have virtually no friends. Nobody I can open up to. My mom and sister are on the other side of the world. I talk to them but I limit myself because there is no point in worrying them when there is nothing they can do. I also have another baby on the way. I SO long for someone who loves me to sit by me on the sofa and just tell me about their day, drink a tea or just tell me that it is true, what I am doing it’s hard, and that I am not alone. Someone to pop by just to see me. I want my mom and hugs. Alas, I am alone. And I am so sad. I feel I will always be alone. It has been 8 years now.

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Making adult friends is so hard sadly. Especially when you’re already alone. I can’t relate to the first part but I do understand the rest. 🩶

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Sending some love your way. So sorry to read what you are going through.

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Did you communicate this with your husband?

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find a library or park where moms go

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Hi sweetie I sent you a bunch of hugs.
I relate so bad with you.
Come on the pods every day and some days you can have some distraction. You can write to me directly and I will join you on a pod.

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I also struggle with loneliness and wanting to be known by those around. I lean on Jesus that He hears my cries. I am here if you need to talk

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Its so sad so many people are so lonely especially in motherhood. Im here if you want to chat ! You can message me

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hubby mentioned future babyshower…

it made me tear up because theres women to invite from his family etc but on my side…… hardly anyone….. most of my cousins/relatives live abroad (& we’re not close) & hardly have any friends.

it makes me feel very sad….

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Christmas/Birthday

December mums, what are you getting little ones with Christmas/Birthday so close together?

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Super lonely 33 weeks pregnant 19 yrs old

I have no friends really and I desperately need some I’m alone in an apartment all day and my bf works all week until 5 and by time he comes home he’s too tired to spend much time with me I can keep a conversation about anything going in desperate tbh I’ve been lonely since I dropped out of school and I cut off a lot of people because they weren’t good people and I just haven’t had the chance to put myself out there

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Birthday presents

My friends little girl is turning 1 tomorrow and I still need to buy her a gift before the party on Saturday. Im lost on what to get her because it feels like she’s already got so much stuff.
Does anyone have any suggestions on things that aren’t necessarily toys? I was considering books but I think she’s got billions of them already too!
She likes to suck on a blanket rather than a dummy or anything so I tried to find one of those teddy comforters that she likes to use but giant size, like a regular blanket but with the bear head part. I thought that would have been an unbelievable present 😂
Alas… they don’t exist 😩😂

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Cuteness aggressive or just weird?

Yk the urge to eat ur baby bc they're so cute and u love them so much? Well I feel like that too but sometimes i feel like I wanna put him back inside me so I can feel those little kicks again and move around. Just that closeness and bond.

Basically missing being pregnant with him. But i think some ppl might say thats a weird thing to say especially with boy moms being sometimes classified as more than moms iygm.

I just love my baby bc hes so nummy nummy and I miss him so bad when he was tiny and could fit inside my womb and move around. I miss that closeness to my child and although id love another one to feel that again timing isnt right due sorting through relationship problems.

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