Too overwhelmed to take toddler out alone

Anybody else?
My boy is very high energy and is in the peak of toddler tantrum stage. I am currently pregnant again and I’m experiencing exhaustion, overwhelm and anxiety which is stopping me taking him anywhere on my own.
I would love to be able to take him to the park or play area etc on my own but it’s just too much (at least too much in my mind). I always worry how will I cope if he has a tantrum etc.
I manage to nip to the shops with him sometimes on my own as long as I have snacks etc with me for him but I feel so guilty that we don’t get to do more.

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Anyone who has children/have had children around that age of toddler tantrums will absolutely know what you’re going through and will not judge! I think our minds have a way of tricking us into thinking our children are doing something that no other child has done before.

Maybe try something small first, just half an hour or so and build it up, go to the park in the pushchair and let them go in the swings, then back in the pushchair and go back home. Next time, swings and then let them go for a little wander and explore. If he has a tantrum while you’re there, I would speak to him calmly and try to distract him with something else, if that does not work you can always put him back in his pushchair and try again another day 🫶🏻

I’ve found with my little boy that he has tantrums when he wants to do something and I stop him so now I just think to myself ‘is it dangerous or inconvenient’ if it’s not dangerous, he can carry on until he’s done.

Of course only do what works for you 🫶🏻

love this! All of this! Thank you so much ☺️

It's okay don't be so hard on yourself not sure if you're UK based but I'm in a similar situation with a toddler and being pregnant and it's just wayyyy too hot to go anywhere alone I need support not just walking but if my girl has a tantrum.

I'm just trying my best to keep her busy indoors I also feel very guilty and honestly so bored stuck indoors 😭😭

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