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You are still very freshly post partum so these feelings are also very fresh. I had an emergency c section 2 years ago and promise time is a healer. You will feel this less and less as time goes on. You are probably dealing with some birth trauma. I really wanted a vaginal birth but will be opting for a planned c section this time around because I don’t wish to go through that trauma of an emergency one again.

Not really, I feel alive.

No two birth experiences can or should be compared.

My first was an emergency section and it was awful. I really wanted a natural birth and with my second that was the plan, 20 hours in I opted for a section and it was the best experience ever hearing my LG scream and be brought straight to me (first was put to sleep). Don’t ever feel less than or that it was easier! It’s major surgery and then you have to get on with things straight away! You should be super proud of having a wonderful child, promise things will get easier as time passes x

I totally understand- I feel exactly the same ❤️so many negative feelings connected to my c-section (emergency section during Labour) and guilt is a huge one. I’m only 5 weeks PP so know it’ll likely get better, but I hate the feeling - you’re not alone xxx

I absolutely feel the same. I think these thoughts are completely valid and its okay to acknowledge that c-section is an unideal way to give birth, that it can be traumatic and jarring for the baby and for mom, that there are circumstances in which providers may rush into things with an overabundance of caution, and all of these can be true without understating how necessary it can be in certain circumstances. Hot take, you do not have to get over it in order to heal, and you being harmed by your c-section experience doesn't somehow invalidate others who had a good experience, even though people will say some stupid unnecessary things in response to your pain. I have thankfully been able to reach a place of acceptance with the help of EMDR and a therapist that specializes in maternal mental health, and I 10/10 recommend it for processing what you and your child went through. What happened will never be right, but it can be laid to rest in a way where it can't harm you anymore, you feel?

I felt the exact same way about my birth. 8m pp and I’m starting to accept that it was the best and safest way for my son to get here and as people keep reminding me, no one else can tell how my son came to be here, just that he’s happy and safe and that’s all that matters. It does take time to grieve the birth you wish you’d had so be kind and patient with yourself 💕💕

im 5 months pp and I was in the same boat as you. I was so anxious and depressed after my c section. I didn't have a great experience altogether. the hospital was great but I was sad about having it.

it wasnt until I heard other birth stories that were way worse than mine and I was like..... ooooh boy! it put things into perspective. I sorta got over it and I'm seeing a great pelvic floor therapist.

im not gonna downplay my experience and I dont wanna compare, but omg did so many others had it worse. all I can focus on is my babys health and development milestones now.

I'm going out with other new moms, going to mommy and classes, and just trying to change my diet right now.