facing eviction because of him.
my partner has anger issues. i’ve dealt with them and wanted to leave many times because of them (and infidelity). but i’ve given him chance after chance, thinking things will be different. after his blow ups he’ll apologize and i’ll think we came to a conclusion. but then he’ll rehash it, throwing everything out the window. he wants me to quit breastfeeding our 17 month old. so i’ve started the weaning process for him. what he proposed i follow was not working for us, so i told him and said im following a different schedule that will work better for me and our daughter and after a few fights he decided he was ok with that. but a few nights ago when i got home from work at 10pm, our daughter was in bed with him which is fine. but she woke up so i was breastfeeding her back to sleep so we could all just go to sleep. he freaked out. pulled her off my breast. started SCREAMING in my face telling me im harming her development and it’s bad for her. i told him its late, im tired, we can talk about this tomorrow. he refused. he started escalating it. turning the lights on, knocking shit off of our dresser, shattered a glass on the floor. throwing her toys. taking her from me and locking me out of the room. making a huge scene for HOURS! i said please she needs to go to sleep stop keeping her up because of this. and he said it’s my fault that she’s up because i want my baby back and won’t leave them be. he ordered me to clean up the mess he made. before he finally laid down in her room with her and got her to sleep at around 1am. the next day i received an email from our leasing office. they received noise complaints and realized my partner is living here while not on the lease. he has terrible credit and renter history so it had to be under my name only. they said he can’t live here and must find somewhere else to stay. that if they receive one more complaint or that he hasn’t left i’ll be evicted. now i’m in an impossible situation. he’s apologized and says he wants to make a plan to keep him from blowing up again and he’ll park is car elsewhere and not come in through the front door. but i don’t feel optimistic anymore. i feel like he’s going to fuck up again and then my name will be ruined. i don’t want to make him sleep somewhere else because i feel that will be hard for him, that and how will they know if he’s still there if he really does keep quiet and lay low? but part of me feels that they will find out. idk what to do. i need to reset my nervous system i feel like im in fight or flight permanently.
