I need help falling back to sleep

Ladies, does anyone have any suggestions for how to fall back asleep after waking in the night?
I have a nearly two year old, and my husband has now had to take over pretty much all of the night wake-ups. If I even attempt to go in and resettle her, I just know I’ll be awake for hours afterwards. Even if I’m only up with her for 10 minutes, that’s it, my brain decides it’s morning and I’m WIDE awake 😩
Luckily, I have an amazing husband who can literally put his head back on the pillow and be asleep within seconds, so he genuinely doesn’t mind doing the odd wake-up. It’s got to the point where he’s basically taken over all of them now 🥹 I know how lucky I am!
Unfortunately, I was not blessed with his ability to fall asleep on command 😂 The second I wake up and start moving around, my brain springs to life and there’s just no switching it back off.
I’m honestly so fed up with it now because it’s really starting to affect my mood day to day. I’ve even started dreading waking up in the night because I never know whether I’ll get back to sleep quickly or be lying there wide awake for hours.
Has anyone else struggled with this? And more importantly, has anyone found anything that actually helps you get back to sleep?

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Bedtime ruined 🫶🏼

Anyone else just had their already difficult because of the heat, bedtime RUINED because of those government alerts 🥴🫪

Failed the transfer & had 45 minutes of screaming, then finally dozing off & those alerts go off! Startled the baby & we are back to screaming again 🫠🫠🫠

The heat.. what do I do

My baby has a fan in his room & the window open but the Tommee tippee egg still says it’s 27 degrees🥴
He’s only in a nappy but is there anything I can do to make the room cool down more before I go to bed?

It’s reached 25/26 before and he’s been fine but walking into his room is like a sauna it’s ridiculous - ours isn’t much better.

Poor daddy!

Anyone else having/had this issue ??

I'm a first time mum and exclusively breastfeeding our daughter
She's only just under 2 weeks old, but almost every time she's held by dad she screams the place down and won't settle.

Unfortunately due to being on deployment during the pregnancy he was unable to do the whole talking to the bump thing and now I feel so bad for him.

He's acting fine but I know deep down it's absolutely killing him that she won't settle with him

Anyone had this issue or have any suggestions?

Feeding during heatwave

Wanting other mums opinions…
I have a 3 month old baby which I formula feed.
Between feeds would you offer your baby a few sips of water inbetween as we’re in a heatwave, or do you just offer more feeds?
At the moment as it’s so hot I don’t want him to get dehydrated so I fed every 3 hours. Is that enough or not?

Being treated like a know-it-all and feeling guilty for having a chill baby

I have 2 kids, my eldest is 3 and my youngest is 4 months old.

I have started going to more classes with my baby and have been meeting with and talking to other mums which has been lovely. I didn't do it so much last time because I had pretty bad anxiety and really struggled generally.

As a second-time mum I do feel far more confident and comfortable, but with that being said she is a totally different baby to her brother and I'm still learning new things every day. I do not see myself as a very experienced parent lol

None of the other mums I have been chatting to have any other kids, they're all first time mums, so I try to refrain from talking about my bigger kid mainly because they might not be interested in the toddler stuff yet and I don't want to come across like I'm trying to say I have more on my plate or that I have it harder or something, because having just one baby is hard enough and I don't want them to feel invalidated. Idk if I'm making sense. Anyways.

My baby girl is really chilled out. (Completely different from her brother who was a reflux velcro baby who never slept a full night til he was 2 and only napped on me)

Baby girl sleeps anywhere, feeds and then burps and barely spits up, she had a little bit of silent reflux as a newborn but it doesn't bother her anymore. She's so smiley and just generally easier but I don't know if it just feels easier because i have a bit more confidence in myself.

Whenever the other mums are complaining and venting I struggle to add to the conversation and relate. They've obviously picked up on it and will make comments like "...but not *my baby*, she doesn't do that does she?" Or "you'll not know what I mean" if they're talking about relentless crying or lack of sleep etc.

I do say that my son was very similar and baby girl just has a different nature, I joke she's just a bit lazy like her dad 😅 She sleeps through the night but I haven't told anyone because I can just imagine the eye rolls. Maybe once every few days she will randomly wake up, but I just feed her back to sleep. I just lie and say she does that every night.

They will sometimes ask for advice but it seems like they're trying to get me to admit to some top secret methods I must be using to have a chill baby when in reality that's just how she is. We're very lucky she hasn't had any milk issues or medical issues, I have no idea how she sleeps so well, she's just a high-sleep needs kind of baby so will happily nod off if I get the timing right. I just google most things honestly. If I'm struggling to understand her shifting wake windows as she gets older I just google it and readjust. I've told them that and they say they can't figure it out and their babies only nap for 20 minutes. I say that's also really normal but idk, I just keep quiet now and feel awkward.

Nursery

So I have a 2 year old - non verbal & potentially autistic.

Me & my partner have said from day one we would not send them to nursery as we don't trust anyone & have heard such negative feedback from friends. I have worries of her being neglected/abused and thoughts of her crying and no-one helping her. Yes I'm having counselling for my anxiety.

However, recently I think I've started to change my mind. I am still extremely anxious but I believe it will help her. Shes such a happy kid and will entertain herself but I'm worried she's being under stimulated. However, my husband is still 100% on her not going. I feel like I'm failing her. She doesnt go to groups as I also have a newborn so cannot do both.

I don't know what to do.