Husbands and putting baby to sleep

I can't tell if I'm being overdramatic or not. My husband is very hands on with our 15 month old daughter. We both work full time and our days are extra long. I work earlier than he does, so he gets her ready in the morning and brings her to Grandma's and then I pick her up and start our evening routine with her. I usually cook and do most of the cleaning/laundry. But he's hands on helping as soon as he gets home. One day as week he's off by himself and has her all day. He loves this extra day with her.
But he never offers to put her to sleep, for naps or bedtime, if I'm home. Not since she was a newborn. I still breastfeed her to sleep of I'm with her,but we plan to wean soon. He says he just can't get her to sleep because he doesn't have "the magic weapon". On his solo days with her, when she needs to take a nap, they just watch TV until she hopefully falls asleep. He says he's tried music, rocking, low lights, etc but it doesn't work. I think he's not trying enough and taking the easy way out.
Am I being unreasonable for feeling annoyed that he never helps put her to sleep and always expects me to do so?

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i think you have a perfectly good reason if i was in that situation i’d tell him to show me it doesn’t work and have him try everything

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Maybe pump some milk so he can give a bottle and do the rest of the bedtime routine?

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Has he genuinely tried? I don’t think there’s much harm in the odd aspect of parenting not being shared, especially if the rest is very equally split! I could understand being put off when you literally do have magic powers since she feeds to sleep, I would probably feel the same way if I had a partner who had a perfect knack for something that I couldn’t master!
I wouldn’t be happy with the tv part though, I’d probably suggest reading books cuddled up in bed together. If she’ll fall asleep to the tv I’m sure she’d fall asleep to a couple calm stories!

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