"But you're the professional"

I'm posting this here because I don't know how else to talk about this.

I had my baby back in August last year. At different points during and after the pregnancy, my husband would say things like "Oh but you work in a nursery so you're the expert" or "But you're the professional, you should know this". Granted, there are some aspects of working in Childcare that have come in useful. The honest truth is that it's so different when you are taking care of your own baby. It's just other people's attitude and mentality of "It's ok Mum works in Childcare, she can deal with it/will have all the answers." It drains me, it really does 😓.

Anyhoo.

Happy Sunday everyone x

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Does your husband call your children names?

My husband gets frustrated with our toddler and doesn't cope well. I am 4 weeks postpartum after a c section and I've had a traumatic experience. He's been calling my toddler a little f*****r and a c**t. Does your other half do the same when frustrated? I feel so offended as I've gave birth to his kids and I'm the mother of his kids.

I need opinions! Because I’m so mad

So my husband took the kids to his parents house so I could take a shower, eat a meal without having to stop every 5 seconds and so I could get some cleaning done, he stayed there for a couple hours and I txt him asking hey I just showered can your mom watch the kids for 15 minutes and you can come home for a quickie? He said yes he came home, I even put lingerie on and everything he’s on the bed I get on top of him before I can even kiss him he starts complaining how my foot touched him and my feet are cold, then complained my hands were like doctor hands because how cold they are so
I said ok I’m gonna just get dressed because I’m not gonna do this when you literally just want to complain when I touch you. He literally got mad and started ranting then left to go get the kids. Am I wrong for not being in the mood anymore when he literally was doing nothing but complaining about how cold I felt on him????? And just saying I have anemia and he keeps our bedroom at 70 degrees or lower with 3 fans on!

Am I overreacting?

My husband and I both work and sometimes we both work on the weekend. My MIL watches our two young children on these days (3.5 yo and 14 mo). There have been many times over the years when I have arrived home (after an 8 hour shift) to my son still in his pj's watching Netflix. I've expressed my concerns about how much tv he watches, I've also brought up that we live very close to parks and that he should not be watching too much tv, especially Netflix.
My husband doesn't care that he watches tv all day but says he prefers that he watches our VHS collection instead of Netflix.
The last few shifts I've been coming home to my son running to turn off the tv (even though I can hear the tv from outside). Or meeting me at the door to say his sister wanted to watch (insert Netflix show).
I'm starting to get really concerned with him taking advantage of my MIL. On top of that, he's starting to become secretive about what he's watching.
My husband thinks I should "chill and be grateful we have someone to watch them".
I feel like he's completely missing the point. I'm not concerned about the tv, I'm concerned about his behaviour lately.

Loneliness- is my husband ready? Am I the issue

I am 20 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby that we’ve prayed for, for over 10 years.
Since being pregnant and getting over the first trimester anxieties after loss I don’t feel much emotional warmth. Recently he has said I’m not nice to be around- we have had arguments about his priorities n drinking.
This week, I had to go to triage for my breathing (low iron and new low thyroid diagnosis) and still felt pretty rubbish, but he went out last night, then had to work instead of go to our pram soo this morning, and then has gone out drinking again.
I am so lonely and just don’t feel a priority with him constantly letting me down.
What would you do?
Am I being overly sensitive?

Help!

So my 10 month old has been on solids since she was 4 months and has eaten everything we have given her she does have her favourites tho so as she’s grown we have stuck to the things we know she loves but now for the past week she has been mostly refusing to eat especially at breakfast time and now it is morning I tried her with porridge which she loves but she was gagging and spitting it out so I took it away and tried her with some yogurt she spat that out so I ended up giving her some fruit biscuits and she was gagging at the sight of it what could this be down too?

I am going to call the doctors as soon as they open but I’m so confused!

Married but feeling as a single mom. It hurts

We just did a 15h journey. During the 2h wait and 8h30h plane my husband did nothing. During the wait he was on his phone and managing to do a detaxe (but why 2h for it?) and then during the plane He slept and watched movies the all time.
Last night we both had a very few hours sleep.
I was so exhausted and sad bc he said at some point also just let them cry if they want they need to learn. To learn ??!!!! They are 2 and 1 ! Am I crazy ?
I cried at some point. It was damn hard, I was so exhausted. Sad that his tiredness comes 1st before his kids needs. Sad that he knows that I won’t let my babies cry, and he doesn’t care how I am myself .
Then he got very angry at me bc people was seeing me crying and “what are they gonna think I am”
And then he lectured me how I was playing being a victim while I am lucky, bc I don’t lack money while struggling on 3 jobs with 7kids.
Then he knows that I can’t have good sleep when we arr angry at each other but again he refused a cuddle when I finished to say sorry.
I ended to say sorry bc I finished to think yes maybe he is right I am too much ? He works a lot and never takes holidays, he does also a lot. But now re-thinking it I don’t think I’m crazy. Maybe other days he is a good dad yes, tbh since we have 2 not that much but he does work a lot.
And when we came home he took the time to unpack and prepare his computer and watch series !!! So he wasn’t exhausted like me lol…
So am I crazy ?
And what to do ? It is not the first time… every time I finish to say sorry bc I don’t like to be angry then he says sorry too you are right. the day after while I can’t get good sleep. I can’t control to not finding sleep … but he can make the effort to make me feel loved before sleep even if he is angry doesn’t he ?