Is parenting supposed to be this hard?

You’re not alone in this selfish kind of behaviour. I’ve been struggling lately too, we’ve never argued before and I’ve never been in fight or flight as much or wondering about leaving him. Our daughter is well behaved and just turned 2, she’s cheeky but lovely. I think my partner thinks I micro manage a bit too much but I feel the mothers really do shoulder all the responsibility. For example, I feel like I need to get permission to go upstairs for a bath alone, whereas he would just go about his day not realising that I’m watching our daughter all day and he is living his life still. I think it breeds resentment. I have started sending him messages explaining my thoughts and feelings so he can sit in his own time, understand my perspective and digest what I’m saying. It has stopped us arguing as much. Hope you are okay and that boundary is completely fair.

I love this idea! And same here, we never really argued before. I would love to know how their brains work because it seems that my work isn’t important, my boundaries are a guideline and I’ll just spend the rest of my days rearranging my life based on what you want to do. I think modern day parenting where both have to work full time it really does need to be a partnership and we both need to check in on each other to make sure our own needs are being met too

I swear any mum I speak too honestly about how I feel about my partner/mental load juggling then comes out with how they feel the same 🤦‍♀️
I think we live in a world with picture perfect social media and no one wants to share the rough bits

The last 2 weeks bedtime has been horrendous, it’s all on me because it’s always been me and won’t allow dad and I spend every evening fuming at how nothing is 50/50. 100% feel your pain x