Do your husbands do an equal amount of housework to you? Admittedly, my husband works 3 days and I work 2 but he barely lifts a finger around the house. He will cook on nights hes off, do the dishes and put the washing in the machine and hang it out. He never vacuums, mops, tidies up, puts any clothes away, cleans any of our 3 toilets or 2 bathrooms, never gets up untol 9am on days off whereas our 3 year old and I are up at 645 everyday...and im pregnant. The otherday I commented on how it would be nice if before inviting friends over (while im at work) he could tidy up a bit. He got very cranky and commented on how he never mentions what i dont do around the house. He then proceeded to nitpick all weekend and comment on how I could've filled up the water filter (with 10L bags) etc. Is this the normal for most women? So we all just do more and just deal with it? I know it's a similar situation with other mums around. I know i cant do this forever. Please be kind
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My husband works 9-5pm. He does daycare drop off every morning. I’m a teacher and on summer vacation right now and my husband sets an alarm for 7am to go wake our son up (I type this as he’s waking him up now).
My husband and I share dinner and dishes most nights. Although he probably does more cooking and cleaning.
My husband does all of the laundry. We moved a year ago and I’ve never touched these machines. 🤷🏻♀️
Vacuuming and mopping is more my thing anyways. But he’ll do it if we have people coming over. Same with bathrooms. He’ll clean up after he trims his beard hair which I appreciate lol.
He also does all the yard work, garbage/recycling weekly, car maintenance (I don’t even gas up my car).
He does all night wakes, every bath with our son, bedtime routine. He manages the Costco list/groceries so that mental load is off of me.
We’ve never talked about roles or chores. We’ve just slipped into a pattern that works for us. But if I need something more, I’ll communicate that

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