In laws against breastfeeding

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I don’t understand why anyone other than the mother of the baby should have a say in how the baby is fed. Maybe except the doctors. 🤷🏻‍♀️

You are definitely not overreacting & yes your husband should be standing up for you more. You are doing nothing wrong re. EBF your baby. Apologies if I missed this but have you tried asking your husband to talk to them alone about this?

Honestly... wow. You have more than one A-hole in this situation, and I bet you smell lovely.
What an absolute bunch of bells. You ha e every right to breastfeed your child no matter where or when, or for how long. Your body, your choice. If they want to be petty about it, that isnt on you. Your kids dont need that influence in their lives either.

You’re not overreacting. I find it wild that anyone thinks they have a right to an opinion about how you feed your child, and it’s not cool that your husband isn’t standing up for you. I can understand how he feels in the middle of it all, but he just needs to stand up and say something to his parents. They are his parents - not yours! They should be happy they have grandkids and should do whatever it takes to see them. And I don’t know that the issue is solely that you breastfeed. It seems like they want to be able to take care of the babies too. They aren’t expressing themselves well at all.

It sounds to me like they’re not happy with you breast feeding because they want to feed your babies and can’t… it’s out of order! Nobody but you needs to feed your babies, there’s absolutely no reason as to why they should be able to do it and it certainly shouldn’t be your reason to feel uncomfortable in your own home.

It’s really sad that they don’t want you to be doing something that’s great for “their grandchildren” too. A fed baby is a happy baby don’t get me wrong, (this is no slander to formula!) but the fact that you’re willing and able to breast feed and give your babies such a great start in life is brilliant! They should be proud of you for that.

Your husband fight your corner more, he should want what’s best for your babies too and he’s seen first hand how great breastfeeding is for them and for you! I wonder if he needs reminding of the health benefits of it for you and them, IE lower breast cancer risk etc and then maybe it’s on him to remind his parents of that.

I think yes he could stand up to you. But his parents sound stubborn so him saying anything I don’t think will help. And for him to keep the peace as much as possible I think he probably just doesn’t want to say anything. There are family members in my family that we kind of just have to ignore we can’t really say anything or it’ll blow up in our faces. I think you could talk to him and be like please stand up for me. Please tell your parents it’s my choice. But also I think you can do it too. Let them know why you want to do it and that it’s your choice. That can either be childish with it or not. But I think you could mention it and then leave it at that. You don’t need to make it a bigger deal because you do then I think it’s. Be a bigger problem and they will talk about it more.

You are NOT overreacting. My daughter was EBF, she's 13 months now, so is on proper food too. I've had a few issues with family members who didn't like that I wouldn't pump/bottle feed etc. My response?? I pushed her from my body, I grew her for 9 months. You didn't, so you do not get to have an issue with the decisions I make for my child.

Definitely a stressful situation 😥 They are definitely overreacting and you have every right to feed your baby how you want to. I'm wondering though how your husband was fed as a baby? Did your mother in law only bottle feed him and never had the chance to breastfeed? Or was there social pressure for her to do things a certain way and she's upset because she didn't get to do the things she wanted with your husband when he was a baby? It might also be that she had expectations for certain things when she became a grandma that didn't get met. I'm NOT saying you need to meet her demands, absolutely not. But jealousy and sadness often come out as anger. If you're both willing, I'd suggest sitting down with an unbiased third party (like a therapist) to talk about why she's feeling this way, because I assure you it's NOT you. And your husband should always have your back even if it goes against his own parents. Continue feeding your baby how you want, I hope things can work out and your family can find peace.