The guilt and judgment around formula feeding 🤍

Sometimes the people you’re closest to can hurt you the most, especially when they judge you behind your back for formula feeding.

I’ve heard comments like, “She didn’t even try,” or “Nowadays it’s a trend. Doctors say formula is okay, so they don’t even try to breastfeed.” And honestly, people have no idea how painful those words can be.

Who is going to tell them about the guilt? The endless attempts to breastfeed, pumping, trying to increase milk supply, worrying whether your baby is getting enough, and constantly wondering if you’re doing something wrong?

And then hearing, “She gave formula, so now the baby doesn’t like the taste of breast milk.” There is so much more behind a mother’s feeding journey than what people see.

Formula feeding doesn’t mean a mother didn’t try. It doesn’t mean she didn’t want to breastfeed. And it definitely doesn’t mean she loves her baby any less.

anyone reading this—have you ever felt judged for how you fed your baby?

in our community

Hello everyone

Hey guys, I really don't want to be judged but could anyone help until the 2nd of September until I'm back at work? I feel horrible but I'm really struggling. I fully understand if not possible, it's noones problem but mine. Thank you ❤️

Spilt Milk

I know how the saying goes, but I am absolutely sobbing.
The jar had around 34 to 36 ounces..
my daughter is going to stay with her father tonight so I worked so hard yesterday to make sure I filled it up and then some, so that she would have what she needed.
We didn’t get good sleep last night. Half asleep this morning I go to fill up a bottle and this happens…
We have some frozen stock but this broke my heart.

Would you correct someone else’s pronunciation for your child? How do you feel about regional/international accents?

I bumped into a mother I know at a coffee shop. I have an unusual accent, because I’m ESL and I immigrated to the UK when I was 14 so I picked up a lot of london pronunciations but I don’t generally have trouble being understood.

Her son doesn’t have any speech issues or anything, he’s got a great vocabulary for 4. He is very friendly so he talks to me when we see them at the park or soft play, and he always seems to understand me.

I was speaking to my child in English and then suddenly I realised the other mother was correcting words I said for her son? I asked my daughter “do you want some water?” which I guess is like dyu wan some wata if I just say it quickly without thinking, and she said quite loudly “we would say WA-TER, do you WANT some WATER” and made him repeat it back twice.

Other words I heard her correct were cloth and cheeky girl, then I started to get self conscious and making an effort to enunciate better. I was so embarrassed, she was speaking quite loudly so she must have known I could hear her. But I like my accent, it still sounds a bit like where I come from. I don’t mind if my daughter hears it and learns it, my heritage is her heritage. We only see this woman occasionally (she’s a bit condescending so I try to avoid play dates) so I doubt my accent is rubbing off on her son.

It’s been a couple days and this is still sitting with me. It feels so out of line to do that in front of the person unprompted. As long as people understand each other, does it matter?

Not doing enough?!

Does anyone else feel like they are not doing enough with their baby? Mine is 5 weeks old today and as an example I’ve just got him in his cot with no visual stimulation as I’m trying to get him to nap but it’s been like 30 mins and he’s still awake and I’m thinking - is he bored?! But I just want a lil nap for him so I can get a couple bits done! I find the days go by in such a blur and by the end I feel guilty that I didn’t give him enough “play time” with like black and white sensory things or visual stimulation. I’m worried I’m setting him up for failure at only 5 weeks old looool. Please tell me I’m not the only one!

Baby slept all night 🌙🥳

Baby is 11 weeks tomorrow, and he slept through the whole night for the first time last night (in his own bed!) 💙

His dad and I were cheering and celebrating this morning!

Let's hope this is just the beginning of sleeping like this and not just a one-off 🤞

Bedtime nappies

Our little boy has started sleeping through the night but as a result his nappy is rather full on the morning and leaking. We currently use pampers and they have been perfect up until now anyone got any recommendations of nappies to try!