Bedtime with a 2 year old

Have you tried reading to her? My daughter loves bed time because she knows it’s story time. I let her pick1-2 books (depending on how big they are) and storytime doesn’t start until she lays down (I’m really strict about that rule and will stop the story if she gets up so now she knows story time is laydown time) a lot of times she falls asleep as we read the 2nd book/story. Sometimes she doesn’t fall asleep during story but by that times she’s sighing and sleepy. Also either me or my husband (we let her choose) will hold her hand or foot to sleep (we let her choose this too 😅) usually when I hold her hand/foot I’ll rub it lightly and that also helps her fall asleep faster. She usually wants me to read her story’s and her dad to hold her hand to sleep.

We used a variation of the Ferber method for sleep training. We also have the same simple routine every night where we pick up toys at 8, then change into PJ's, brush teeth, and tuck in. We turn on the night light and the white noise at some point during the routine, prior to our son entering the room. He takes 5-15 minutes to fall asleep from that point, but doesn't cry.

Is she tired enough? Anything else to finish off the day? Sensory experience before bedtime helps us

We also talk through day what we have done and liked and didn’t like.

You were smart not do sleep training!

Try reading the book "the calm approach to baby sleep" by Hannah Love. This talks through gentle steps for gradual settling to sleep, making sure everything is set up to ensure they are tired enough and then the slow removal of support so that little one can start to need parent input less to get to sleep. It worked for my little one and a few others that I know tried it too. She often does a free online sleep club which was great to get individual feedback on what would be best next steps too.