Am I tripping or has this man lost his mind???
We came home from picking him up from work and I’ve been having this pain in my stomach. I told him I’m in pain I need to lay down. I had planned on making dinner when I felt better but the pain didn’t go away. It’s 9pm, and the kids haven’t eaten. I fell asleep and was expecting him to figure out what we were gonna eat. While I was asleep, the kids completely trashed the place while he was playing the game. Then he comes in the room saying “what are we gonna eat, if you knew you wasn’t cooking you should’ve said that when we got home.” On top of this, he came in the room, saw how there was trash (we have a 1 year old) on the floor, and started kicking the trash to my side of the room saying “this is disgusting. I’m not cleaning this up why is it all on my side.” I had to get up, make our 5 year old a quick chicken quesadilla and some sweet potato fries. He just sat there. Then after I made her food I went back to lay down and he came and tried to physically get me out of the bed saying “you need to shower and you’re in my spot get up and go shower.” Forces me out the bed and says he’ll order something. I told him our daughter needs to get in her bedtime clothes and he needs to do night time duties with her. He didnt say or do anything. So he left it alone and after I finally got her in the bed he sat next to me and said “I don’t like eating late I’m not ordering nothing. I’m getting in the shower.” So now I have to cook for myself or just not eat. Like I don’t understand why he has to be so harsh and manipulative. Am I tripping ?
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The communication could have been a bit better, but he still needs to step up & do his part. Could he not hear them making a mess? Did he did notice when the 5 year old brought up how hungry she was to him? And if HE finds the mess “disgusting”, why kick it to YOUR side of the room? He sounds like a child himself. He needs to grow up, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.
Sounds like a "partner" who usually does fuck all and didn't give a shit that you weren't feeling well other than the fact there would be an impact on him. Yes, you could have said that you were feeling unable to make dinner if that's something that you usually do. But he should also know the children need feeding, he could have spoken to you and asked if there was something planned that he could cook, he could have taken the initiative and just made something instead of playing a game. He's showing you who he is. I think you deserve better.
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