Nursery to make toddler freindly/social

My toddler is 15 months old and we do 2 classes a week (stay and play and swimming) and go to park almost everyday. Although we don’t do a lot of bonding with individual friends or babies. She is still very closed off to strangers/ new faces, she just watches and doesn’t want to interact with them very much (hesitant to say hi) i wonder if sending her to nursery would be better for her as she would become more confident at greeting and interacting with people. I need other SAHM’s perspectives on this! Preferably people who have seen both sides 🥺 does nursery help? Or will it not. What AGE do you think it helps if at all

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I’m a SAHM and my little one is the opposite and loves interacting. I think they are all different but from what I’ve read at this age, their close circle is very important to them still and stranger danger is a healthy response if you think about how vulnerable they are. I wouldn’t rush her into nursery just to push her into socialising. She’ll let you know when she is ready.
I’ve only seen the other side of friends babies that have gone to nursery and they have become more clingy to mummy.

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15 m is still very young. My daughter has the best friendships with toddlers I've encouraged it with, where we were able to monitor and encourage. Organised playdates outside of class and we taught them now to play. She has only just started playing with other kids at nursery and she's 3.5. It would get a little one used to other kids being around but it's not likely to make her any more friends if she's not interested at groups! Just give it time. The majority only really tandem play at this age.

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Absolutely nonsense! Toddlers don’t need groups at that age, they need to do things with the primary care giver like playgroups - there is no more socializing at that age.
It comes much later, with 3 they start playing with other kids

Learn about your child’s temperament, don’t push her out alone! It will not be better than being with a parent!!!

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This young nursery isn’t actually beneficial for them and can acc do more harm than good in the long run, it’s very developmentally appropriate for them to be cautious of new ppl, nursery is better more from age 3 onwards to get them ready for school, if you don’t need to send them don’t, under 3 they don’t actually tend to play with other children mainly alongside them, my daughter is 3 but when she was younger she would only actually play with other kids older than her because they can engage her in the play more than another toddler her own age, I have a 21 month old and 3 year old that have never been to nursery my youngest is much more outgoing than my eldest I think it’s more about their personality than anything, if you really do want them to socialise more find more stay and plays, my toddlers do dance, football, swimming lessons and we also go to stay and plays and church too

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