episiotomy

Had my baby boy 5 days ago and had an episiotomy as baby wasn’t coming out just had the midwife out and my stiches have came away but no sign of infection but am still really sore especially when going to the toliet. If anyone has had anything similar how long did it take to heal or generally just stop being as sore

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I had an episiotomy with my first baby and took at least two weeks to feel okay, but wasn't really sore when I went to the toilet more when I was sitting down and putting pressure on it. I'm 15 days pp with my second and had a tear so had stitches again, the pain still not fully gone. Just keep the area as clean as poss and change pads regularly if you're using them

Took a couple of weeks for me

I’m 8 days pp and still really sore from my episiotomy but not as bad as before. Keep on top of iburprofen and paracetamol and try leaning forward when going toilet while using a peri bottle. Always pat dry, don’t wipe!!! My midwife also said don’t try lean off it, sitting on it will help it stitch back together. You’ll feel better soon xx

It took me two weeks to feel better too. Keep up with a paracetamol as others have said. Try staying active as much as you can. Drink loads of water. Eat plenty. You’ll get there x

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