Am I being dramatic
Just had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago, we lost the baby at 27 weeks,
my friend is staying who I haven’t seen since before I fell pregnant, she’s just had a baby and brought him to stay, but I feel I’m always crying about her baby, and getting emotional, we haven’t dine one nice thing as I’m bed rotting most of the day!
So tell me do I need to get a grip or do I have the right to feel upset x
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I'm so sorry for your loss. You have all the right to be upset. You need time to grieve and it's completely normal to still be emotional, especially around someone else's baby. I'm so sorry, I'm sending you big hugs. It will get better with time but it is still early days right now. 🫂🫂🫂
I'd politely explain that you're just not mentally ready to spend this time with a baby. Surely as your friend she'd understand and leave?
If you're literally not getting out of bed, she'd be able to sense that her presence isn't really helping you ....
If I was your friend I would have asked beforehand whether staying was something you're comfortable with - it's a lot to ask and anyone with an ounce of empathy should understand that (in my opinion 🤪) your feelings are 1000% valid!
Its one thing to stay with you to help you, give you some mental freedom and a safe space to talk through your feelings.
It’s another to go there, knowing you just lost a baby (literally a whole baby at that point), and basically act like you’re on a live-in play date.
It gives rubbing it in your face. That may not be her intention, but it’s definitely with talking about with her.
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Am I being dramatic
Just had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago, we lost the baby at 27 weeks,
my friend is staying who I haven’t seen since before I fell pregnant, she’s just had a baby and brought him to stay, but I feel I’m always crying about her baby, and getting emotional, we haven’t dine one nice thing as I’m bed rotting most of the day!
So tell me do I need to get a grip or do I have the right to feel upset x
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