Mamas
I need some advice.
My friend recently told me she was pregnant. About a week or two later, she called me really upset because she thought she might have had a miscarriage, as she'd started bleeding. She had a scan booked for two days later.
On the morning of the scan, I messaged her to ask if she'd had it yet and to wish her all the best. At that point she said she hadn't had the scan yet, so I told her I was praying for her.
I haven't heard anything since. I completely understand that it's private and none of my business, but I also can't stop thinking about her. I don't want to message again and make her feel like I'm prying.
Part of me thinks that if she wanted me to know the outcome, she would have told me already. But another part of me worries that she might just be struggling and not know what to say.
What would you do? Would you send another message just to check in, or would you wait until she tells you when she's ready?
Hubby said I should just leave it if she wanted me to know she would hv told me the outcome .
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I just don’t want to seem like a careless friend especially going through something major like this at the same time , I don’t want her to feel like I’m in her business 🥺
If it was me I’d just tell her I am here for her if she needs to talk because I know how hard this must be
Can you make and take her a "basket of sunshine"? Something to say "I'm thinking of you" regardless of the outcome?
Tell her you're there for her and leave it at that. She will tell you when she's ready.
After getting the news of a miscarriage, communication can feel heavy, and responding to messages can feel like a massive chore, even if they are well-meaning. People will want to know what the news is, how you are, and answering those questions can feel loaded. Telling other people makes it suddenly feel very real in a brutal, undeniable way. I would let her process whatever she's feeling and let her reach out to you in her own time.
Let her come to you. Ask her out to lunch and if it comes up it comes up otherwise she'll come to you when shes ready. I've lost 3. Everyone processes this news differently.
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I need some advice.
My friend recently told me she was pregnant. About a week or two later, she called me really upset because she thought she might have had a miscarriage, as she'd started bleeding. She had a scan booked for two days later.
On the morning of the scan, I messaged her to ask if she'd had it yet and to wish her all the best. At that point she said she hadn't had the scan yet, so I told her I was praying for her.
I haven't heard anything since. I completely understand that it's private and none of my business, but I also can't stop thinking about her. I don't want to message again and make her feel like I'm prying.
Part of me thinks that if she wanted me to know the outcome, she would have told me already. But another part of me worries that she might just be struggling and not know what to say.
What would you do? Would you send another message just to check in, or would you wait until she tells you when she's ready?
Hubby said I should just leave it if she wanted me to know she would hv told me the outcome .
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