Not wanting to go out

My daughter is 9,so a bit older,but she is like this.She just wants to be home chilling,getting dressed in the morning,school or trips or shopping,it's a nightmare.....so stressful

Could you just take them out in their pjs and see what happens? Not like it's a punishment, just like a natural consequence but make it unappealing to be wearing the pjs in public.
If you don't want to put your clothes on for the day then you will have to wear your pyjamas outside. Oh you're chilly/have cold feet/got wet cause you're not wearing a coat/look silly in pjs? Well yes that is why pjs are only for sleeping, would you like some proper clothes instead 😂
Could help with the clothes situation but I guess you'd still have to get him out the door

We went through this for around a month or so. Every time we had to leave the house/ get dressed it was a HUGE meltdown. We pushed through and said we need to leave the house and we need clothes and got him dressed with a huge battle. The phase passed and he’s fine again now.

My advice would be push through, you’re the parent and if you need to go out then they need to come with you.

We found options helped somewhat. Do you want the blue shoes or the red ones? Do you want to go now or after your snack etc etc x

My LB will refuse to go out and blow full tantrums if we do tell him we are. The only way to get him out sometimes is to say "ok, bye bye" then walk out and start opening the car doors. He will then panic he is being left alone and run after us, but still crying and refusing to go out.

We then also have the problem of when he is home and bored/upset with us all he wants to do is go to Granny and Papa's house, but then once there all he wants to do is go home again.

We have found that sometimes we can get him out by saying ok "no cookies/lollies for the rest of the day" but this doesnt always work. It helps that my boys is a very sugary food motivated child.

Yes we’ve been dealing with this for the past 4-5 months and it’s just starting to improve.

We’ve used all the tactics - Telling him he can pick a treat (something fairly small like smarties for example, then let him chose one colour) but he has to get dressed first and I find it helps sometimes doing it right by the door or somewhere he can’t easily escape 😅

Have also tried just leaving and saying ‘ok mummy’s going to have fun finding the sticks, going to the park, etc’ which occasionally works. But there are times where we have had to just put the clothes on him and get him in the pram while he has a full meltdown 🤪 which isn’t fun for anyone but sometimes you just have to leave the house.

These days he’ll moan a little but I try to talk about all the fun things we’ll do outside. It’s hard! Very normal for this age. Hope the phase is over for you soon x