Is it appropriate for a girl under 18 years old to go commando?
I'm up late thinking what would be appropriate. I choose to go commando when I was maybe 25 and I thought what if my daughter wants to go commando because one day she will notice I don't wear underwear? She's 9 now
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I think it would depend on the exact age and the reasons why. If they're an older teen, then it'd be her choice. I started sleeping naked when I was a teenager for my own comfort. My mom went commando my whole life, and it did not make me want to choose to do so as well.
Tbh if she doesn't tell anyone nobody would know, but it's best to let her choose around 14-16. I think 9 might be a little young to want to do that, and i would look for an underlying cause this young such as an allergy, discomfort in the area, etc. If she hasn't noticed, I wouldn't bring it up, but just be honest if she does.
Yall walk around naked at home? How would she know you go commando?
I don't really think it is an age thing. Whenever she starts to hate underwear let her go for it!
I don’t see why it matters as long as she’s hygienic, and even then I don’t see how age would play a part in that aside from being old enough to understand personal hygiene
I’ve had friend’s daughter just not like underwear and they didn’t wear any. She wore skorts or clothing that had another protective layer like shorts . I think it’s fine just education on washing - not wearing same clothes twice as it can cause a uti or yeast infection
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the man I sleep beside every night didn't tell me happy birthday didn't even get me a gift . Next day got me a cheap ass card with $100 in it ..
that same day he brought gifts to go to a baby shower , later that night he went to straight club ended up at motel paying for pussay .. for this men bday I gifted him 5 gifts . Lord knows how broken was , then got the audacity to come home and lay on My bed didn't even shower , EVENTUALLY I LET ANGER GET OVER ME AND PUT MY HANDS ON HIM . Asked him to leave my house he refusing , I'm not even comfortable in my own house.
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Me and my husband have been arguing about this, so I’d really love to hear other people’s experiences!
I’d like to have my sister around after I have the baby. She works, but she’s happy to come and stay for at least 3 weeks to a month to help me during the early days. However, during her last visit, my MIL told my husband that having someone around might mean we don’t get enough time to bond with the baby, and that if she had the choice, she’d have only wanted mum and dad around.
She did actually have her own mum with her for at least 3 weeks after both of her deliveries, but since that comment my husband has been quite stuck on the idea that it should just be “our family time” and that he’ll be there to support me.
I come from a big joint family, so having family around after a baby is completely normal to me. All my sisters had family helping them during their postpartum recovery, so I’ve always seen it as a time when you get extra support rather than something that takes away from bonding with your baby.
My sister is also not someone who would constantly be in our business or take over. She’d help where needed and give us plenty of space to have our own time as a new family.
I’m also finding this particularly difficult because I don’t have my mum, so my sister is really the closest person I have who could be there for me emotionally and practically. My husband will be home for 2 weeks on paternity leave, but after that I’ll be on my own while he goes back to work.
So I’d really love to know what others think. Am I being too sensitive about this, or is it completely reasonable to want family around during those first few weeks for the emotional, physical and practical support?
Would you personally prefer to have just you and your partner around to bond with the baby, or would you have appreciated an extra pair of hands and some company?
And if you had family staying with you after birth, did you find it helpful or did you feel like it got in the way of having your own family time? Would really appreciate hearing everyone’s experiences!
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Is it appropriate for a girl under 18 years old to go commando?
I'm up late thinking what would be appropriate. I choose to go commando when I was maybe 25 and I thought what if my daughter wants to go commando because one day she will notice I don't wear underwear? She's 9 now
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