Sleeping with my enemy

I just want to vent had to let this out ..
the man I sleep beside every night didn't tell me happy birthday didn't even get me a gift . Next day got me a cheap ass card with $100 in it ..
that same day he brought gifts to go to a baby shower , later that night he went to straight club ended up at motel paying for pussay .. for this men bday I gifted him 5 gifts . Lord knows how broken was , then got the audacity to come home and lay on My bed didn't even shower , EVENTUALLY I LET ANGER GET OVER ME AND PUT MY HANDS ON HIM . Asked him to leave my house he refusing , I'm not even comfortable in my own house.
I am 6mon Postpartum.

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Relationship in the gutter

I think my relationship with my baby's dad is heading towards the gutter...
Ever since having my little boy I've been struggling with being physically involved with my partner, it's almost like the idea of it repulsives me?
I've never been a very romantic person, nor have I ever been very good at being intimate (due to abuse from a previous relationship).
Lately it feels like he's pressuring me into being intimate, and saying I don't love him because I can't do it. I've explained to him many times about how I'm feeling but it just doesn't seem to change anything. He even said he feels like we're just friends at this point.
He's aware of my past issues, and has no issues with that. I've had therapy for my past, but this seems different?

I don't know what I'm hoping for from this post, just feel like I need to air out how I'm feeling!
I've had a "breakdown" today, not that he found out. Just don't feel I have anyone to talk to about it

Sleeping with my enemy

Have Family member around for the first month pp?

I'm FTM due in Jan 2027.
Me and my husband have been arguing about this, so I’d really love to hear other people’s experiences!
I’d like to have my sister around after I have the baby. She works, but she’s happy to come and stay for at least 3 weeks to a month to help me during the early days. However, during her last visit, my MIL told my husband that having someone around might mean we don’t get enough time to bond with the baby, and that if she had the choice, she’d have only wanted mum and dad around.

She did actually have her own mum with her for at least 3 weeks after both of her deliveries, but since that comment my husband has been quite stuck on the idea that it should just be “our family time” and that he’ll be there to support me.
I come from a big joint family, so having family around after a baby is completely normal to me. All my sisters had family helping them during their postpartum recovery, so I’ve always seen it as a time when you get extra support rather than something that takes away from bonding with your baby.

My sister is also not someone who would constantly be in our business or take over. She’d help where needed and give us plenty of space to have our own time as a new family.

I’m also finding this particularly difficult because I don’t have my mum, so my sister is really the closest person I have who could be there for me emotionally and practically. My husband will be home for 2 weeks on paternity leave, but after that I’ll be on my own while he goes back to work.

So I’d really love to know what others think. Am I being too sensitive about this, or is it completely reasonable to want family around during those first few weeks for the emotional, physical and practical support?

Would you personally prefer to have just you and your partner around to bond with the baby, or would you have appreciated an extra pair of hands and some company?

And if you had family staying with you after birth, did you find it helpful or did you feel like it got in the way of having your own family time? Would really appreciate hearing everyone’s experiences!

Bd drama

Just need someone to vent to about my bd and his first bm

Wants me to be a homemaker but complains when I take the role seriously...

Early in the relationship we agreed that we will have mostly traditional family roles, he goes to work and makes money for the family, I stay home to manage the household and raise the children. My biggest struggle is keeping up with cleaning, I find it hard to do with 2 little ones constantly making messes, and when I do get the opportunity to clean motivation becomes an issue. I find it the easiest to clean when I'm actually proud and happy with the space I'm cleaning.

I started making home improvements to help improve my motivation, some matching furniture, matching bedding sets, replacing a few old items, hang some things on our bare beige walls, nothing too crazy. He'd complain about costs then complain about helping me if something needed power tools to put together but always enjoyed the end result of my ideas and our work. That's a common reoccurrance, him complaining and arguing against something the whole time just to find that he actually likes the results.

I'm trying to get to a point where I'm making family dinners more often and we all eat at the table I just upcycled for us but this is just another string of complaints. Complaints about the ingredients I get and the food I want to make for us that he's never even had before or has had and just doesn't want to spend money on the ingredients. I want to make 3 homemade meals this week, nothing too crazy either, and apparently that's asking too much for him to cooperate with. I want to make baked white fish, he complains he won't like it even though he says he hasn't had it, complains it might be expensive, complains it might stink up the whole house.

He just wants everything to stay as it's always been yet married me because he wants improvement and change in our lives together. If he were alone he'd be in a nearly bare apartment but I want to make it a home for our family and every idea I have or try out gets complaints and push back and never really receives the appreciation or thanks for it after he finds he does really like what I bring to the table. He wants me to consider being our children's homeschool teacher but I dread the potential complaints I'd hear from him, I'd need to see a change in attitude and support before I take on that task.

Anyone else relate or dealt with this before? Any advice that doesn't involve dramatically divorcing?

Why do so many people think every single thing a parent didn't do exactly right is down to laziness...

It's always 'they're lazy' 'parents are so lazy' 'parents thesedays are just lazy'
It's applied to every single scenario where a parent does not follow a guideline to a T. I'm tired of people assuming I'm lazy when I am fighting for my life just trying to survive each day.

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Wants me to be a homemaker but complains when I take the role seriously...

Why do so many people think every single thing a parent didn't do exactly right is down to laziness...