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Just need someone to vent to about my bd and his first bm

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What’s the tea?

I’m free

What they do now girl lol

My inbox always open hun judgement free zone over here

Me and him been talking for 3 years haven’t made it official yet but end up having a baby he haven’t been in a relationship with the first bm for almost 5 years but I recently went through his phone cause I just had found out the password and I been asking and complaining about do he want to go back to her and do they hav anything going on it was always no because he the one that had left her but when I was going through they’re messaging because he text on Snapchat I seen them sending each other their private area to each other and it’s been going on while I was pregnant I done been around this girl, invite her to my home so she didn’t feel left out to send Christmas with her son been in my car all that from the kindness of my heart and he telling me it’s old but it’s not old to me and I don’t think I can ever get over that

So I texted her because why would she tag along to do that with him and knowing our kids are siblings and something like that can mess up a lot of shit

That’s how they be fr. My bd first bm hated me because instead of trying to be a ignorant person towards her i tried to be nice because she just had the baby and he really wanted to see her. I bought stuff for her to come with us for a day and she made him come to her house and she tried to tell him if he gotta f her before walking out the door with the baby. He put the baby back down and left. Ever since then she been so bitter and won’t let him see her. She’s 13 now. Bitter bm wanted to be the savior in you relationship. Trying to pillow talk to him about u to him while trying to get the tea from u….BEAT HER ASS

I am married to my husband who have a outside child and girlll i feel you

Me being the big person mature person we both have kids by the same man let’s be cordial no friends when I was pregnant with my first child he said something about my unborn child my fiancé at the time definitely checked her because I never said anything bad about there daughter i went out my way brought her daughter a sweatpants outfit from Amazon. It was really nice. I even told her that.

She though me and my fiancé was broken up done for good when when all backfired on her she found out me and him was working out she got mad seeing all this extra stuff I can have him when I want I bust out laughing thats bm talk this man dont even like his bm she spiteful trying to get him lock up somethig that happen 5 years lying in court saying he touch her when in actuality that wasn’t the case remind you you you say all of that but still got your daughter coming around his family and you was saying how you wanted to

Another child with him lol this woman dont like me to this day like I care I told her ass off couple times

I told her find a man stop trying to play side chick role to your bd 😂😂😂😂 my husband bm definitely bitter making lies up saying her daughter dont like me when I have not even met the girl yet don’t make sense when his daughter ask about me all the time just not around her mother I really do hope and pray his bm finds happiness love in her heart serious I’m never a type of person who put other woman down. I never said one bad thing about this woman’s daughter but it’s the jealousy and bitterness thats crazy I pray for some baby moms out there who are suffering in bitterness please go to therapy and find love in your own self cause it’s not worth it

When my kids your daughter are siblings

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First go at colostrum collection 🫢

I am so surprised and so proud of this and I wanted to share somewhere and here seemed appropriate 🥹

Am i wrong for feeling annoyed?

My in laws are very involved in my child's life, its a lovely problem to have i guess but sometimes I feel like my MIL oversteps and takes firsts away from me. This weekend we've gone for our first family holiday with my 9 month old and they've come with us, we mentioned we wanted to buy a baby walker and she's gone off and bought one without asking or telling us first.
Her first time at the beach and she was there and strolled off with her before I got chance to. Our first time with her on the swings and she's just...there.
Same as giving her ice cream/foods/sweets whatever, she just gives it to her without asking. Idk if I'm overreacting or I feel like a bit pushed out. She's my daughter and I just wanted to do some firsts with her myself. Not sure if I'm being mean and should just get over it. How would you approach it?

Money

I’m getting really close to saying f this relationship over money. I’m with my kids dad. We have two. He is extremely spoiled. I peeped that a long time ago. He does not like to pay bills. I make less than him but I still end up paying the majority of the bills. Like say rent for the month of August was $1100 (it’s going to be $1700 next month but we’re on a move in special that ended this month). The phone bill was due $220. I had to pay my car note car insurance and light bill. All of those were about $200 as well. This man sent me $500 which I’m only factoring into the household bills not my own bills for my car. On top of paying bills I always buy groceries. He never does. He might buy like snacks for the kids after school but no food to make meals. I feel like I’m being crushed financially and he’s getting to put money up!

Relationship in the gutter

I think my relationship with my baby's dad is heading towards the gutter...
Ever since having my little boy I've been struggling with being physically involved with my partner, it's almost like the idea of it repulsives me?
I've never been a very romantic person, nor have I ever been very good at being intimate (due to abuse from a previous relationship).
Lately it feels like he's pressuring me into being intimate, and saying I don't love him because I can't do it. I've explained to him many times about how I'm feeling but it just doesn't seem to change anything. He even said he feels like we're just friends at this point.
He's aware of my past issues, and has no issues with that. I've had therapy for my past, but this seems different?

I don't know what I'm hoping for from this post, just feel like I need to air out how I'm feeling!
I've had a "breakdown" today, not that he found out. Just don't feel I have anyone to talk to about it

Struggling

This is going to sound awful. And please I do not want to be judged. Im feeling very overwhelmed the last couple of days. My partner has been working non stop (fine because the bills need paying) my 5 month old is very whiney. I put her down she whines, i pick her up she whines, rolls onto her tummy whines. And this is going to sound even worse and its as if im a bad mum. I do t know the difference between her tired or hungry cry, they sound the same to me. Its awful, I do everything i can and im feeling really stressed and low about it today. I know im a good mum I do everything to tey and keep her happy. Shes constant on the go, I dont know what else to do!! I just need to vent. Sorry and again please dont judge

Lack of support

How do you guys deal with when your husband doesn’t want to help take care of your kids?
We are first time parents our son is now 5 months and my husband hasn’t helped in almost 4 months he says he can’t take the baby crying or the screeching. So I’ve been doing everything on my own while working and being in college and taking care of our son.