Am i wrong for feeling annoyed?
My in laws are very involved in my child's life, its a lovely problem to have i guess but sometimes I feel like my MIL oversteps and takes firsts away from me. This weekend we've gone for our first family holiday with my 9 month old and they've come with us, we mentioned we wanted to buy a baby walker and she's gone off and bought one without asking or telling us first.
Her first time at the beach and she was there and strolled off with her before I got chance to. Our first time with her on the swings and she's just...there.
Same as giving her ice cream/foods/sweets whatever, she just gives it to her without asking. Idk if I'm overreacting or I feel like a bit pushed out. She's my daughter and I just wanted to do some firsts with her myself. Not sure if I'm being mean and should just get over it. How would you approach it?
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I think this is understandable. My mother-in-law is so excited which is lovely but she's brought everything pretty much. So I don't get to have a choice. Our baby isn't here yet but I do worry that she will be over involved and I'll get overwhelmed with it all. I quite like being in control so I think that's my issue and I'm trying to be ok with it. Firsts are a massive thing and I don't want to miss any and I want to be the one who introduces things in a way I am comfortable with and when I am comfortable with. I don't know what to suggest for you but your feelings are relevant, justified and understanding
And you should have all the ‘firsts’. You’re her mum. My in-laws were the same and I sent them a long message explaining why I want some things to be the way I want them to be. You shouldn’t have to justify yourself at the end of the day she’s your daughter. I know how frustrating it is but you have to set some boundaries because you will bottle all the frustration up and then you’ll snap and it won’t be pleasant. She needs to respect your boundaries and you have to put some in place sooner rather than later 😭
Do you love them? If you do speak to them honestly and with love and tell them how you feel but don’t exclude or push them out
Also bear in mind how blessed you are as some people have absolutely no village and are raising children completely isolated with no break or support
Count your blessings
Personally I'd be putting some distance there
To be honest there’s a presents MIL and then there’s a pushy/overbearing MIL & then there’s MIL like mine just « indifferent »
Your MIL sounds like the pushy/overbearing MIL … I’d just politely tell her to take a few steps back … maybe don’t mention to her when you want to get stuff so she doesn’t go get it first lol 😂
Also I just think MIL in general are always going to be hardwork at some point or another haha 😜
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Am i wrong for feeling annoyed?
My in laws are very involved in my child's life, its a lovely problem to have i guess but sometimes I feel like my MIL oversteps and takes firsts away from me. This weekend we've gone for our first family holiday with my 9 month old and they've come with us, we mentioned we wanted to buy a baby walker and she's gone off and bought one without asking or telling us first.
Her first time at the beach and she was there and strolled off with her before I got chance to. Our first time with her on the swings and she's just...there.
Same as giving her ice cream/foods/sweets whatever, she just gives it to her without asking. Idk if I'm overreacting or I feel like a bit pushed out. She's my daughter and I just wanted to do some firsts with her myself. Not sure if I'm being mean and should just get over it. How would you approach it?
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