Struggling
This is going to sound awful. And please I do not want to be judged. Im feeling very overwhelmed the last couple of days. My partner has been working non stop (fine because the bills need paying) my 5 month old is very whiney. I put her down she whines, i pick her up she whines, rolls onto her tummy whines. And this is going to sound even worse and its as if im a bad mum. I do t know the difference between her tired or hungry cry, they sound the same to me. Its awful, I do everything i can and im feeling really stressed and low about it today. I know im a good mum I do everything to tey and keep her happy. Shes constant on the go, I dont know what else to do!! I just need to vent. Sorry and again please dont judge
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My daughter is 5 months and we're in the same whiney stage! I think they are so much more aware and want to do things but can't. I don't have much helpful advice just solidarity! I tend to try different things and as long as she is chill we just go with the flow. The other day she played with a tassel on a cushion for ages and I'm like ok? If it's keeping you entertained 🤣
I can relate to this a lot and I think it's completely normal. This week my 5 month old was so whiney all week and I found it really draining, especially towards the end of each day. She would hardly be put down, didn't seem to have much interest in playing and I couldn't figure out what she wanted. Nothing seemed to make her happy, even the things that would previously have worked. Yesterday suddenly she was more content again. I think it's just phases they go through but it feels so hard at the time. Hang in there! :)
This sounds really full on, bless you đź«‚ you don't sound like a bad mom at all! I also struggle to tell the difference between my baby's cries (it feels like as soon as I start decoding them they change!) so I usually go off context (ie, how long since last feed or wake up). But it's tricky and the whining stage is draining. My LG loves being outside just looking at the trees, so if you're in the middle of nowhere maybe you can grab a blanket and just go sit outside in the shade with her for a bit? It will get better - you're doing great! đź’Ş
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This is going to sound awful. And please I do not want to be judged. Im feeling very overwhelmed the last couple of days. My partner has been working non stop (fine because the bills need paying) my 5 month old is very whiney. I put her down she whines, i pick her up she whines, rolls onto her tummy whines. And this is going to sound even worse and its as if im a bad mum. I do t know the difference between her tired or hungry cry, they sound the same to me. Its awful, I do everything i can and im feeling really stressed and low about it today. I know im a good mum I do everything to tey and keep her happy. Shes constant on the go, I dont know what else to do!! I just need to vent. Sorry and again please dont judge
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