Was this really an accident or was it on purpose?
My husband 'accidentally' binned and washed my sourdough starter. I can't believe it was an accident because its nearly a year old, it has literally been sitting in our kitchen for a year! He says I left it near the sink so he just assumed it was to get washed out. I had just baked this morning and had left it near the sink, but not at the sink if that makes sense. We have a designated area that dishes usually get left before they get cleaned and it was nowhere near there.
Also he claims he didn't know what it was. He has seen me make bread a billion times. He has eaten the bread a billion times. It had been sitting on the kitchen counter for a year! š„“ I said to him he should have asked if he wasn't sure instead of just assuming I wanted to get rid of it, but his excuse is he didn't know I was using it/or what it was and I hadn't even thanked him for cleaning up after me. I was going to clean up, but we had two children who I was also tending to at the same time.
I know I can make another one but it's just annoying, I was proud of myself for keeping it this long and it was a really great starter. I also feel like he's done it on purpose because we have been arguing a lot lately about who does what in the house. We both work, but I WFH part time so it seems to him that I'm just home all the time doing 'nothing'. We have a 1yo and a 4yo, 4yo goes to nursery in the mornings and 1yo goes to granny's, I work 4hrs every morning and then I pick up both kids and have them for the rest of the day. I do all the meals, all the cleaning, all the laundry, all the extracurricular activities, all the shopping, manage our bills. My husband works full time 9-5, comes home, he helps with bath time and bedtime and acts as if he's done it all. It drives me insane.
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The way I would lose my mind š®āšØ I would tell him Iām buying another starter for some absurdly high price and next time heāll be more careful or not do petty things
Eh.. tbh it does sound like a genuine mistake albeit a painful one to you. At the end of the day itās just starter, not worth crying over it or getting into a fight
Idk man, men really do things without thinking a lot of times. I wouldāve lost my mindš it couldāve been a genuine mistake but I would be highly pissed.
I know that you need starter to malke sourdough but would not know what it was or looked like
I have made bresd before that didn't neec starter or yeast. Sounds like a genuine mistake
Regardless, he should apologise for the mistake . Just sounds like misunderstanding to me
i don't think it was on purpose but you know him best. i also think the bigger issue is that you would think he was doing it on purpose regardless of if he did, and you think he's lying when he says it was an accident. i know you say you've been arguing but there's clearly been a trust breakdown too which can be a little different and probably needs its own attention, from both of you - including him figuring out how to rebuild your trust
Yeah Iāve not a clue either. I had to google what a starter is. Iād probably think it was for the bin too and in that scenario Iād be like why you shouting at me for cleaning? Sorry
It seems the thereās bigger issues then the starter, and the starter is just the last straw
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Was this really an accident or was it on purpose?
My husband 'accidentally' binned and washed my sourdough starter. I can't believe it was an accident because its nearly a year old, it has literally been sitting in our kitchen for a year! He says I left it near the sink so he just assumed it was to get washed out. I had just baked this morning and had left it near the sink, but not at the sink if that makes sense. We have a designated area that dishes usually get left before they get cleaned and it was nowhere near there.
Also he claims he didn't know what it was. He has seen me make bread a billion times. He has eaten the bread a billion times. It had been sitting on the kitchen counter for a year! š„“ I said to him he should have asked if he wasn't sure instead of just assuming I wanted to get rid of it, but his excuse is he didn't know I was using it/or what it was and I hadn't even thanked him for cleaning up after me. I was going to clean up, but we had two children who I was also tending to at the same time.
I know I can make another one but it's just annoying, I was proud of myself for keeping it this long and it was a really great starter. I also feel like he's done it on purpose because we have been arguing a lot lately about who does what in the house. We both work, but I WFH part time so it seems to him that I'm just home all the time doing 'nothing'. We have a 1yo and a 4yo, 4yo goes to nursery in the mornings and 1yo goes to granny's, I work 4hrs every morning and then I pick up both kids and have them for the rest of the day. I do all the meals, all the cleaning, all the laundry, all the extracurricular activities, all the shopping, manage our bills. My husband works full time 9-5, comes home, he helps with bath time and bedtime and acts as if he's done it all. It drives me insane.
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