Does anyone have a child who uses a wheelchair and puts them in there to get things done when they are a risk to themselves?
I just had an occupational therapy home visit and the lady watched how she was for an hour and a bit n she jist keot saying how risky her behaviour is, shows no understanding, breaks out of everything and climbs everything and strong and agressive and she suggested if i need a cuppa tea or I want to take 5 mims without being attacked, jumped on or being there with her with my arms out ready to catvh her next impulse or injury then i should. She said even put her in it to watch tv whilst you do what ever ypu need to do. She has a condition that means her walking outside isnt good and flares up and she can get stiff but other than that she is the most hyperactive, strongest most impulsive child that cannot stay still, engage in any play or calm down at all she is destructive and agressive and thats ehy it was said. What would you do? Right now she is like it from 6am until 9pm and throughout the night too.she also has a safety bed she can escape. She has no speech and no understanding like 0
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I am not sure what you're asking or what they are wanting you to do. Like putting your child in the wheelchair while you have your tea?
Would your daughter actually stay in there or hurt herself trying to get out of it? Is there another safe place she could go or you can create? Is there any help available so you can get respite? You don’t mention where you are from.
Would she be OK while she is on the wheelchair or would she get distressed?
As someone who grew up with a severely disabled sibling, and being around so many different disabilities, I think it is completely and utterly ok to do this. You’re not harming her, and girl, you are allowed a little bit of time to reset. Please don’t feel bad 💙
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Does anyone have a child who uses a wheelchair and puts them in there to get things done when they are a risk to themselves?
I just had an occupational therapy home visit and the lady watched how she was for an hour and a bit n she jist keot saying how risky her behaviour is, shows no understanding, breaks out of everything and climbs everything and strong and agressive and she suggested if i need a cuppa tea or I want to take 5 mims without being attacked, jumped on or being there with her with my arms out ready to catvh her next impulse or injury then i should. She said even put her in it to watch tv whilst you do what ever ypu need to do. She has a condition that means her walking outside isnt good and flares up and she can get stiff but other than that she is the most hyperactive, strongest most impulsive child that cannot stay still, engage in any play or calm down at all she is destructive and agressive and thats ehy it was said. What would you do? Right now she is like it from 6am until 9pm and throughout the night too.she also has a safety bed she can escape. She has no speech and no understanding like 0
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