Seems like no one cares
I’m tired and overwhelmed. I have a twelve week old and a 5 year old who is autistic. I had to cancel my 12 weeks old appointment because his car seat was all rigged…my 5 year old had to stay home because he’s sick. My mom works from home but she’s about to leave. We all live with her at the moment. My partner doesn’t live here during the week because he started a new job and it’s easier for him to stay with his mom until he gets his car because he works at the same job. The 12 week old is fussy all day unless someone is holding him and of course that has to be me..
I’m drowning. Housework, feeding the baby, entertaining my five year old, needing to complete schoolwork, needing to grocery shop. I’m burnt out. All people can do is tell me “well they’re your kids” don’t you think I know that?
When the 5 year old isn’t here, he’s in ABA full time but about to graduate in two weeks. I have to get him ready to go to his new school. He gets out at 2:30 and we get home at 3. From 3 to whenever he goes to bed, we are stuck in this apartment. I am just undone..idk what to do anymore. I wish I could just go away. My mom helps but complains most of the time. I’m on the porch now trying to breathe and she’s calling me asking where I am and what I’m doing. I just want to be alone for 10 minutes. Jesus.
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Your partner needs to come and be more present for his kids. Just because it's easier for him to stay with his mum for his job doesn't mean he should, he's got a whole ass family that includes a young baby, his partner is struggling, he should be doing more. Does he take the kids at the weekend so you get some downtime/alone time? At the very least he could do that. It's not your mum's responsibility at the end of the day. It must be a lot for her having you all living there and needing to help when you do have a partner who could be doing more. If you had your own place and your partner was away all that time you'd be doing everything on your own so actually you do have some support even if it's minimal. Maybe you could make a plan with her where she has structured planned time with the kids so you can have a bath or something, or specific things she helps with, so there's an understanding/agreement on both sides, she can agree to what she's happy with and you know when help is available.
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