Am I a bad mom?

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a child free vacation, but the way you’re talking about your own 4 year old is what makes this weird. You’re not just saying you wanted some adult time you’re literally acting like your child is going to “ruin” a $2,000 vacation because you might have to spend time with him instead of drinking. He didn’t choose to be included, you’re the parent who planned the trip. Wanting a break is normal, but making your own child sound like an inconvenience standing between you and unlimited liquor is honestly pretty sad. And posting it publicly makes it even worse because one day that little boy is going to be old enough to read exactly how his mom talked about him. Maybe the issue isn’t that he’ll ruin your vacation, but that you’re expecting a 4 year old to accommodate an adult vacation that was never planned around him in the first place.

I never said you don’t love your son or that you can’t look forward to something besides him. Obviously you’re allowed to want alone time with your husband, especially if you never got that honeymoon phase. My point was the way you originally worded it. Calling four days without your child “paradise,” saying you “won’t enjoy yourself at all” if he comes, and then saying the only thing you’re looking forward to is unlimited liquor makes it sound very different from simply wanting some adult time. You can desperately need a break without making your 4 year old sound like the reason your vacation is going to suck. That’s the part I was criticizing, not you wanting a vacation with your husband.

I don't think you're a bad mom for wanting time away. I think all moms need a break.

I'm even considering taking a little 2-day weekend getaway from my baby too but I feel so guilty for wanting time away from her. I love her dearly but I just feel like it's Groundhog Day for me lately doing the same stuff over and over again with no break.

But for your vacation, since your entire family is coming, can't they help with him? I feel like that would help immensely with taking the load off of you.

Plus maybe you can't use this trip as away time from him but you can't plan something on a smaller scale where you can be away from him for a while.

I know having a toddler can be exhausting but there are typically childcare options on a cruise you could look into it would be worth the money to get a couple hours to yourself. I dont think I could go on vacation without my kids ever. Im having my second and it is going to eat me alive to be away from my son while im in labor. I never had a honeymoon phase either. I met my husband got pregnant and got married all within 3 months. You should really talk to your therapist about these negative feelings because it will effect your child. 4 years old is a very developmental year for a child. A real vacation shouldn't be something you have to be blasted through to enjoy.

Giirl you deserve the vacation. Have ur man handle ur son. Make it fun for everyone 💜

Where is this vacation cruise going. Because you might still need the passport. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with going baby yourself. If you have someone to watch him then do it! Have fun!

Most cruises if not all have kid camps where you can drop the kids off for a few hours if that helps any.