Help. I spanked my toddler.

If this happened for the first time, try to move on.Keep it easy,but make sure that you dont feel this way more often with her.If so, try to keep her in a safe place and take a ten minute break. If that is not still helping , seek for help from others

Personally, when I feel like I’m about to snap, I stop whatever it is I’m doing or trying to do.
The moment I feel hot and bothered, I let out a low groan (bc it helps me regulate) & pause. There’s been times my 5 month old is kicking and thrashing while I’m trying to put on a diaper and when I’m bothered by it, I leave him bare butt in his bassinet for a few minutes. He doesn’t want the diaper now? Ok fine. I’ll wait until he’s ready.
It works for me bc it lets my children know that I’m not gonna force them. We’re gonna wait until we’re both calm and try again.
Hang in there. I know it’s easier said than done, but if you don’t want to be that “kind of mom”, then patience is required, not just with your daughter, but with yourself. You’re learning, so is she, give some grace and try again.

I’ve made mistakes in anger too. It’s a terrible feeling but it’s good that you want to do better. Walk away if you’re feeling really angry is really the best advice I can give. Make sure the child is safe and just take a minute. Even be honest, tell them mommy needs a min. And if you do make a mistake, don’t be afraid to say sorry. It models repair in relationships and that’s really important for kids to learn.