Night away? Guilting myself to feel like a bad mom for being away with dad

Hi moms - need some advice. Me and partner are in desperate need to have just the one night together.

We love our daughter so dearly we don’t want to leave her, but obviously after one year of not sleeping together only us in the same bed we miss each other a lot. Even our wedding night we shared a bed with her as she was so young - so no wedding sex 🤣

We sleep with her and she is our everything. But we are also a couple, and we both see and feel the need for just us time.

Just everytime I think about the thought of leaving her for the night (with grandparents who know her so well), I feel guilty! How did you handle the situation of night away from your baby? Like, without thinking about them the entire time!

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Haven’t spent a night away since he came home from hospital… he’s 21 months. We have found time for intimacy usually once he falls asleep.

How old is she? I think you are very normal…

We didn’t have a child when we got married, but still no Wedding Sex hahah

Does it have to be a Night?
I value much more the days with my Partner. Find a middle ground

I honestly think that mum guilt will always be there it’s just within us but I was so surprised how much we enjoyed ourselves when we went out for dinner and my mum looked after my little girl. She’s 4 months and my mum had her from 5-11 the other evening. Of course you miss them and can’t wait to get back to them but you feel like a better mum when you return as you feel refreshed. My mum is having her for the night in a few weeks as we are going to a wedding and because she did the evening with her she knows her bedtime routine and managed to get her down. Fills me with more confidence leaving her knowing my mum knows exactly what to do and baby was happy when we returned.

I try to remind myself it’s good for everyone involved. Good for you and your partner to have some you time, good for grandparents to have the opportunity and understand what’s involved and good for baby to be happy with someone else (I always think it’s worth doing incase an emergency where you can’t be there)🩷

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