How do you stay?

The issue is ...trust! Once broken it's really hard to get past it. I gave second chances we had trust and jealousy issues after...
The saying once a cheater always a cheater always on the mind once they break what you thought was something special! If they can do it once they can again.

In the same boat here

Maybe couples counselling? There are ways you both can still work things out if you both are still willing, especially him. Because there's more on him to prove to you.

I do believe people can change. But they must be willing to, and willing to do the work. Trust has been broken, so trust must then be earned again. He needs to prove to you that he’s changed, it was a once off it’ll never happen again. But for him to do that and for you to gain his trust again he needs FULL TRANSPARENCY from now on. With everything. Phones open, no hidden pw. We have no trust issues because we are fully transparent w each other. Take Snap, for example. (We have a snap streak 😅) We both send a snap when we get to a place, leaving a place. If I’m with Grace for a girls night I’ll send him photos of our food, a selfie of us. When I’m in the car ready to go home I’ll send him a snap. It’s our form of communication. Instead of “how is it? How’s the food? Where ya at? Who’s there? Where you going now? When you planning to leave?” Etc basic questions he might ask me throughout the night- he doesn’t have to ask- he sees it. I’ve sent him a pic. Nothing hidden. At all.