Very stressed and overwhelmed newborn mama

Hang in there mama! Ive found that feeding 90% of amount needed, then doing a nappy change, swaddle and finishing with the last little bit of milk helps my baby settle a lot faster than finishing with a change. It’s only day 4 - we’ve just hit day 8 but definitely found days 2-5 hardest while he was readjusting to the outside world!! I know it’s hard but take the naps where you can - alternate feeds with hubby and even just an hour here or there in the day will make a massive difference.
Talk to your midwife about the intrusive thoughts if you’re concerned, they will be able to recommend the best resources to help x

Hey have you tried swaddling ? Love to dream swaddles see very good . Swaddling is the only way my little one got settled . He had me up for hours on end and as soon as I introduced a swaddle it stopped x

For gas you could try infacol, that’s really helped our boy get rid of trapped gas from both ends! Me and my husband have also been taking it in ‘shifts’ during the night! He goes to bed around 10 and I wake him around 3, and I go to sleep until I wake up! I’m a night owl so that’s why I take first shift - not sure how we will navigate this once he goes back to work but for now it’s helping us both get the rest we need! For hiccups you can try a dummy if that’s something you want to offer your baby but it’s helped ours!
Totally understand intrusive thoughts but it does ease, I’m 3 weeks post partum and it is getting better, you’ll find your way I promise 🩵

Our little boy was the same. We’ve started using infacol with each feed which has helped but he’s still unsettled at 3 weeks old. Continue to take it in turns to nap rather than the both of you staying up at the same time as this will help with your mental health. If you become more worried you could see the GP in case it is reflux. I tend to keep our boy upright for 10 mins after feeding before burping and then once he’s asleep keep him on my chest about 15-20 mins before putting him down so he goes into a deeper sleep. Baby might also need to up their feed as they’re getting to day 5 when your milk comes in so they’re cluster feeding

Just wanted to send a hug and say you’re doing a great job! I had horrible intrusive thoughts on day 4 too, it’s definitely the hormones being all over the place and settling. Thankfully after a day or so, I felt much better and they haven’t come back. I’m 4 weeks postpartum now (my August baby ended up being a July baby!) and everything is much easier, you’ve got this 🤗

Have you tried very soft circular massages on the belly, perhaps not just after feeding but between feeds, clockwise, slow and very soft, no pressure. That worked with my first when a bit older and still does now all.tge Time.
It is very normal to feel what you do about partner, and worries, and fears.
The all world is new for you and for your baby it is her first hours of eating, digesting... It will get smoother an hour at a time for the three of you try to breath deeply, you have done so much and so well already!!✨