I feel like my partner is avoiding intimacy with me

I’m 36+5 today and I feel like my boyfriend doesn’t want me at all. We were talking about having sex to try to induce labour, yet I feel like he’s avoiding it… he knows how I feel whenever he’s being like this (we’ve had this conversation before as I find it weird he doesn’t want to be intimate - even before pregnancy, I feel like any other man would be the happiest man ever) and we’ve not been intimate for weeks now.. maybe I’m overreacting but he doesn’t make me feel wanted or attractive. Makes me so upset, I spent last night crying out.. maybe it’s my hormones I don’t know - it really pissed me off he said I am “emotionally unstable” because I cried about it, and I feel like he’s taking the happy moments away from me, I’m not even sure what the point of this post is I just feel like I needed to let it out 😞

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Does he just have a low lobido? Does he have sexual trauma? Have you talked to him about how he feels about sex? Some people aren't really into sex really. I do feel like he was out of line for saying that. Did u tell him he doesn't make u feel wanted or attractive anymore?

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You said this was happening even before pregnancy. Or was spoken about.

As above, Does he just have a lower libido than you? Or.

What was his reactions/reasons for previously when this was brought up and you’ve explained how it makes you feel?

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We tried to have sex today with my husband and I m 33 weeks. It was the most uncomfortable thing ever... We just had a big laugh at it. He might feel awkward about it and that's valid too. It doesn't mean you are not attractive or anything... Just have open talks about it so you both know how you feel about it.

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My husband got a little uncomfortable with sex during the last stretch but it wasn’t because he didn’t want me it was because he could feel our son during it.

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Is it the pregnancy this time? Some men don’t want to have sex with pregnant people. It sucks but should be respected all the same.
My partner and I didn’t have regular sex after about 20 weeks (when he could feel the baby moving). In fact we had sex once at 27 weeks and then not again until 9 weeks PP. My partner found the baby literally being between us and moving around a turn off. As much as it upset me and made me feel unattractive, I understand.

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My ex was addicted to porn and like this. Would vonstantly reject me and destroy my selfsteem. I was really unhappy with him, i couldnt stand to see my own face in the end… real sad. I got out if there and i was just fine with other boyfriends and i cant stress enough how happy i am with my husband. Five years together and never says no

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Sorry, but this isn’t just about missing sex, it sounds like none of your emotional needs are being met & he’s blaming it on you when he’s supposed to be your partner in this pregnancy. Think about it, it’s common knowledge that pregnant women need more emotional support during pregnancy due to hormones, there’s no way he didn’t know this ahead of time, so I think what prob hurts the most is the fact that he was already dismissing your potential needs before this pregnancy began, which makes sense, especially when you say things like “wonder if I made a mistake getting back together”.
My hubs quit having sex w/me after I cramped, I just came off 10w of pelvic rest & it scared him that he hurt me. I tried explaining that it’s common, but his body wouldn’t listen. You know what he didn’t do, stop catering to my emotional needs, he continued on w/the other types of intimacy, so I never felt unloved, unattractive or lonely, my hormones still wanted sex, so I got a toy & was good.

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I feel like my partner is avoiding intimacy with me

I’m 36+5 today and I feel like my boyfriend doesn’t want me at all. We were talking about having sex to try to induce labour, yet I feel like he’s avoiding it… he knows how I feel whenever he’s being like this (we’ve had this conversation before as I find it weird he doesn’t want to be intimate - even before pregnancy, I feel like any other man would be the happiest man ever) and we’ve not been intimate for weeks now.. maybe I’m overreacting but he doesn’t make me feel wanted or attractive. Makes me so upset, I spent last night crying out.. maybe it’s my hormones I don’t know - it really pissed me off he said I am “emotionally unstable” because I cried about it, and I feel like he’s taking the happy moments away from me, I’m not even sure what the point of this post is I just feel like I needed to let it out 😞

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