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I'm a big proponent of SAHMs getting a stipend for this among other reasons. Having your own money is important, and the work you do is also important and shouldn't be devalued. Having your own money to spend on things like this is validating, and you can put some of it away every month to have a small savings account in case of emergency.

Nope. I am daycare, a chef, a maid, a project manager for my family 🤣. All of which are honorable and integritable jobs that earn a living. If I wasnt here he would pay for it so… his gift is from my portion of income he is able to make because i “cover” all those responsibilities. Its our money🤣… not just his.

No, it’s like surprising him with something he wants and feels like maybe he can’t buy himself because he doesn’t need to spend the extra money. But I do all our finances, so if I see the budget there, or I budget ahead of birthdays etc, then I don’t feel weird about it. Christmas we agree to either spend a small amount and fill stockings, or do something together like the theatre and not do presents.

I don't feel weird about it because it still surprises my husband. He is so busy with work & travel related to work he loves finding a surprise gift when he returns. Even if it's something he's wanted it's still an element of surprise for him.

It’s my money too so no